argument with om

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Registered: 03-11-2004
argument with om
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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 6:33pm


Last night me and om went to watch the basketball game at a local bar. We were sitting

there and then half-time came along and I wanted to play a game or two of pool. So, I

asked om if he wanted to play and he didn't. So, I put my money up on the table and

to play someone else. Whom happened to be male. I lost the first game and ended up

playing 3 total. When I was done I went back to talk with him. And he was like I don't

go to the bar to sit by myself. Which I agree I shouldn't have played 3 games. I

should've played the one and went back. Om was like I don't know what your H thinks

if you leave him hanging but it doesn't work with me. I was like I'm sorry. Which

I truely was. But that didn't change his attitude. He still was real short with me

And when we left I went to grab his hand and he pulled it away. I was like oh my

I guess I didn't realize that I upset you so much. And he didn't have to mych to say

We went back to his house and I wanted to touch him in bed. So, I rubbed his back and

tried to give him a kiss to no prevail. Well, this morning I woke up and called my

sister to come and get me. Since my car is broke down. And she did. But I didn't

wake him up to tell him that I was leaving. I left a note instead saying that I didn't

want to wake you and that my sister was coming to get me. Have a great Saturday.

And I will call you tonight around 5 or so. Well, I just tried to call and his cell

phone was shut off! Which it never is. Tomorrow is his Birthday and I wanted to have a

specail day but by the it looks we're not going to spend the day together. :-(

Do you think that he should be that upset about the playing pool? Or maybe he's more

mad about me leaving without saying a word and when I left I did take everythin of mine

with me. I didn't leave anything and I'm sure he noticed that. Sorry for babbeling

just need to get it off my chest. Tell me what ya think!

Thanks for the ear

Breezy

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 7:59pm
I think he's rightfully put out by how long you spent playing pool, but he also should have been open to talking it through. Your taking everything with you probably just compounded the anger. It's bad timing with his birthday, and all, but I say give him a few days to work it all through, then hopefully he'll be open to talking with you about it.

Good luck.

Lucky

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 9:19pm
This sounds VERY familiar. When I was still with my ExH we went to a party together where he just left me sitting alone all night while he visited with his friends. Then my brother and some other guys asked me to play pool with them and of course I, thankful to have something to do, did. My H went balistic, nearly taking off without me and leaving me at the party stranded about 30 miles from home. All because I played pool with a bunch of guys. Maybe it's some wierd guy jealousy thing??? He might have also thought you should want to spend every moment of your time with him, since the two of you probably don't get to see each other whenever you want. Either way, it sounds like jealousy and possesiveness and his silence and prolonged anger is his way of controlling you now and your "punishment." He's going to make darn sure you don't ever "neglect" him again. I learned a lot about control by having a controlling H, not at all a good way to live. Good luck.

Brin