Attracted to someone who is married

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-07-2003
Attracted to someone who is married
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Fri, 10-31-2008 - 6:33pm

Hello all, I am new at this board but not with ivillage. I need some help with my attraction for this man i have seen around where i work.I work at the flea markets sometimes to make extra money. Well i see this guy 2 times a week.He seems to be around everywhere i go. I have been in the cafe there 2 different days and whe i walk in there, just a few minutes after i was in there he came and got behind me and bought something to eat.I have noticed that he watches me and says hello and smiles at me.I say hello and smile back at him.I have talked to him briefly a few days ago for the first time about something i was selling.He was very nice and seemed to be real friendly.


I do believe this guy is married but he has not said anything to me about it.I over heard him talk to someone about his wife.


What do you guys think of his action ?


I am so attracted to him.I would love to get to know him but i just don't know how he is thinking.


Thanks so much...


KC

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2008
Fri, 10-31-2008 - 7:23pm

I think that you should try to find somebody that is not already committed. I say that because it's very hard to be the OW. Always taking the crumbs that his W has left you. To know that if ever your A is discovered so many people will be hurt or destroyed.

Everyone that enters an A says that they never wanted feeling to become involved, but in most cases they do. Imagine loving someone w/ all your heart and knowing that they will never be all yours, and on top of that he goes home to another woman and another family. Some, but a precious few can keep things strictly physical, but most eventually fall.

The majority of the people on this board are in marriages that have already died, they just haven't been burried yet. They never intentionally set out to be in an affair, but found themselves in one anyway. I think that you would be hard pressed to find anybody here on this board that would encourage you to enter into an A. It's a hard road traveled. You will have your highest high, and your lowest lows, and no clue about what will happen next.

My advise......leave the married guy alone, and find someone who is S. You will thank yourself in the long run. Trust me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2008
Sat, 11-01-2008 - 12:11am
Justice is right.
There are so many available guys to choose from...don't set up yourself for failure, becoming the OW. Reads posts on this board, there is so much pain involved, spare yourself all this unneeded drama.