awkward

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Registered: 03-22-2014
awkward
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Sat, 07-12-2014 - 7:39pm

My single AP often asks me about or mentions my husband. I dont know if he's jealous or just curious but is it reasonable of me to tell him it's none of his business/i don't want to discuss him?

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Registered: 05-20-2009
In reply to: masa2014
Sun, 07-13-2014 - 12:32am

If you don't want to share with him, then tell him you don't want to discuss your husband or your marriage with him.  It's really none of his business.  But then, with him being single, he's not cheating on anyone,he probably doesn't understand why you are, and he  wants to know what the reason is.  Affairs usually have rules.....and if your rule is that you will not discuss your husband, then tell him so......and ask him to stop mentioning him or asking you about him. 

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Registered: 06-14-2014
In reply to: masa2014
Tue, 07-15-2014 - 5:58pm

Share what you are comfortable sharing...but be prepared to play by the same rules if he ever has someone else.  If you don't want to discuss your husband then don't expect him to discuss his dates, girlfriends, etc.  It is a hard road to travel.  

From someone who is married and has a married AP, there definately is a certain amount of jealousy as well as curiosity.  Just my opinion for what it's worth.  Good luck to you.

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Registered: 03-02-2002
In reply to: masa2014
Fri, 07-18-2014 - 1:42am

I would imagine he's curious. .  Maybe he is also a bit insecure.  Either way, if you do decide to mention your H, be very careful not to compare your men.  Avoid subjective input and speak neutrally.   AP could very easily get his feelings hurt.. Maybe your AP is just really looking for some positive reinforcement from you  And  that really doesn't have to include anything to do with the H.

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Registered: 01-09-2014
In reply to: masa2014
Thu, 07-31-2014 - 3:31pm
Its none of his business and you can always tell him nicely that you don't want to speak about him when spending time with him. The less he knows about him the better off you'll be.