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Baby blues
| Sun, 02-22-2009 - 11:23pm |
Two weeks ago, I gave birth to a baby boy, the fruit of very complicated relationships that involved way too many people. His daddy was with me the whole time where I was the least dignified. Luckily the labour was only about 6 hours (and consider this is my first).

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Hi, Zooya. I don't make it here much anymore but popped by. I do remember your name but not your story. From the sounds of things you are/were one of two OW both of whom MM got pregnant.
First and foremost, please contact your doctor regarding your depression. Although it may seem like baby blues and may be nothing PPD is very, very real and can be dangerous. There is help for it and you shouldn't be ashamed to seek it out. Also take any help offered with that little baby. Being sleep deprived is no joy and can really put things out of perspective in a hurry.
Second, no one here mentioned it but I hope that you have contacted someone regarding child support for your child. It is owed to you and he is responsible for the child that he help to create. Make sure he lives up to it.
Finally the heck with him and any names he had leftover to give you. Find a family name or a name that you love (how about George for your little monkey, ;o) LOL). Put that little guy first and enjoy him. They grow so very quickly.
Hugs to you.
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Hello Lizzie!
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Hi Zooya -
First - congratulations on your new blessing - that child is going to be the most amazing person you have ever met in your life - and just think - you are in on his growth from the beginning - how awesome is that!!
Hi Tgr!
>>>"People all say that time will heal everything. It has been 14 months since I knew he cheated on me, and yet, ……"<<<
That's why we advice accepting that this man will always do this to you and you have let go of the dreams. He's the bigger cake-eater I've ever seen on this board and you're the biggest ________(fill in the blank).
Saying all the right responses to us is no good to you. Let go, go NC except for if it has anything to do with the baby, (don't create reasons and drama about the baby so you can keep feeding your addition to this guy) let time heal. But you gotta let time do it's work. It'll never work unless you get yourself out of this thick fog!
Also might be a good time to see a professional to help you sort this out.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
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