Back on the Rollercoaster

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Back on the Rollercoaster
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Fri, 11-14-2003 - 9:50am
Well after 3 months of almost NC, MM seems to be trying to make up for lost time. We got together last week. Then I told him that I didn't like being left in the dark for so long. He has apologized and I think he knows now that I won't be putting up with being treated that way. He said I seem like I'm not happy and I told him I have feelings and he hurt them bad. So I think if we try to get things back on track like they were before I think I would be happy with that again.

He says circumstances got in the way that he never intended to. And he always still wanted to see me. So guess I will be taking that ride up again ... wish me luck!!

Dusty
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Registered: 11-13-2003
Fri, 11-14-2003 - 11:38am
Dusty, don't do it! If you were over MM even one iota, you were so much better off yesterday than you are today! Affairs are definitely not as fulfilling for the OP as they are for the MP. I have been on both sides, the OW and the wayward spouse! Stand tough!
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Registered: 07-27-2003
Fri, 11-14-2003 - 1:03pm
Be careful dusty...I hope things work out for you!! Keep us posted.

Charlotte

 

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Fri, 11-14-2003 - 1:31pm
Problem is, I already got together with MM last week. He definitely gives me what I can't get from my H (sex). As long as we are both on the same page it works really well, it did before and I hope it can again. But if I get the NC treatment for a long time again, I WILL drop him. Because now I've BTDT, I know I can get by without him if I have to. But right now, I think I'd like him in my life.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-14-2003 - 2:35pm
hey dusty, understood on the BTDT girl. the first time for anything is the hardest, but since you made it through the NC intact, you can tell him "never again" and mean it.

in the meantime, enjoy whatever time you have with him!

take care,

gurl

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Registered: 10-24-2003
Fri, 11-14-2003 - 10:15pm




all I can say is proceed with caution... and also no woman is like a man

when it comes to sex, we get our hearts all wrapped up in it most of the time...

I hope it goes your way Dusty.. I really do.... I know months will go by if I let them

and I am going to try.

Hugs,

Deb

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Registered: 11-13-2003
Sat, 11-15-2003 - 8:05pm
Yes, do proceed with caution. Get what you can from the sit (good sex) and don't expect more so you're not disappointed. It is very hard being the OW, probably the hardest of the 3 characters.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 11-15-2003 - 8:23pm
dustyrose, I feel for you. I know you must be flying high right now but please be careful. I'm not seeing any incentive in here for him to change...

You said "He has apologized and I think he knows now that I won't be putting up with being treated that way." I guess I'm not sure how it is that he knows that. From past experience he might assume that he can come and go as he wants in your life and you'll always be there when he wants back in; all he has to do is apologize. I think that for some men it takes more than that for them to *really* get it.

I hope he has learned his lesson and I know you are all the stronger for going through the 3 months of NC. Best of luck to you!

Kari