Bad day yesterday

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Registered: 07-27-2003
Bad day yesterday
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Fri, 08-29-2003 - 10:42am
Hmm, well my day started off by going to the doctor, I am having some problems and I need furthur tests, yuck!! Then I went to work and someone else called off so I had to work a double shift...boy am I tired! But while at work...someone came to see me, and confronted me. Can you guess? His W. OMG, I went outside to take a quick break and suddenly she was there in my face! She asked me if I was looking for her H! I said No, and she was like...yeah, right. I said, listen, I have an H of my own, I am not interested in yours. And she said, yeah, I believe you. At this point I got real PO'd and turned and said, I don't cheat on my H, and I have no intention of cheating on him, I'm not a W****. I only said this because I was real angry and I knew it would get to her, and I wasn't really thinking clear, I just wanted to get rid of her. Then she said something about that I better stop leaving voice messages on his cell. I just rolled my eyes at her and walked away because if I didn't I was going to do or say something that I would regret later on. Later on, I did see him and told him about it. When I told him what I said to her, he was like "You didn't" and I said, I'm sorry, but I was so mad, and I wasn't really thinking, he said that was ok, she was just going ballistic because he left her again. Well, I had no clue that he had left her, I haven't talked to him in ages, and I don't even know his phone number, so I have no idea where she got the voice mail thing, it sure wasn't me. I am the only person I know that can get in trouble without doing anything wrong. Now I wish that he would just leave me alone, it is getting really old now, and I didn't do anything to cause his marital problems, they were there before I became friends with him. And I think his W needs to worry about the OW that he is seeing and leave me out of it. Another thing, I have too many problems of my own without bringing OM into it. And I wouldn't be going through counseling if I didn't really want to work things out with my H. I just want some peace in my life at this point, and if he keeps pursuing me I am going to have to tell him to back off. My feelings are too hard to figure out without him popping up and looking so damn good to boot, and I just want to go on with my life and not think about him, and concentrate on my H and fix my health problems and my marital problems, (which have nothing to do with MM since he was never really a part of my life).

Well, must run, I just hope today is better!!

Hugs to all,

itty

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Fri, 08-29-2003 - 10:56am
Hey itty!

I bet the MM/W situation is making you realize how glad you are nothing ever happened with OM! Think of the drama! I'm sure if these situations keeping popping up, your thoughts about MM as the ideal will quickly fall apart.

So look on the bright side: you haven't done anything wrong, counseling is going well, and your H loves you...

Be strong and get some sleep!

Alameda



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-29-2003 - 11:05am
itty, hi there. sounds like you're doing the right thing for you -- making your M better and staying away from MM. his W is reaching out to you because you are right there and obviously their M is in trouble.

take care of what's important to you -- your marriage and your H. good luck working out whatever issues exist. relationships and especially marriages take a lot of work, by both parties.

enjoy the weekend,

gurl

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Registered: 04-24-2003
Fri, 08-29-2003 - 11:07am
big hugs itty!

Your right you didn't do anything wrong and his W should be worried about what ever woman did leave the messages, not you.

Take care of yourself! I hope the tests come back with good news for you.

Celt