Bad Timing

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Registered: 05-11-2004
Bad Timing
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Sat, 05-15-2004 - 12:02am
I'm new to this board, so bear with me...

I am a MW. I can't say anything so bad about H other than we have our ups and downs as I suppose is normal in any M. Three years ago I met someone thru a mutual friend - instant attraction, but I was happily married with kids - didn't think anything of it. Over the next couple of months, our paths seemed to cross and we'd bump into each other. One day I was with our mutual friend and we ran into him, so we had lunch, nice conversation, flirting... From that day on - the compatability and the chemistry was too much to ignore. We started talking on the phone, seeing each other, flirting, kissed, and need I tell you more?...So here I am 3 yrs later - I can't seem to get him out of my mind, can't stop this thing we have. I've distanced myself as much as I could, but I always end up back with him. BTW, he's divorced and single at the time, so it puzzles me why he sticks around.

I'm confused. How did I get caught up in an EMA when I wasn't even looking? And why can't I get out? I hate to say this, but sometimes I think he's my destiny. Is it so, is it just bad timing?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2004
In reply to: shaughty
Sat, 05-15-2004 - 12:46pm
I could write the same exact same thing as you did, except I don't have kids. In fact, I posted a topic a few days ago, wondering why my single man has stuck around so long (3 years, too!). There were some great posts on that, by the way, and now I think I know the answer!

For me, it got to the point where ending it with him was not an option. You will get to a point where living somewhere in between two lives is too difficult and you will decide which way to go. I know I got there at the beginning of this year, have made a decision about my life and marriage, and this is actually the happiest I have been in those 3 years. Sometimes making a decision-even at the risk of making the wrong one-is better than no decision at all.

Good luck!