Baffled, confused, speechless...HELP....
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| Thu, 06-10-2010 - 9:59am |
Hello everyone -
I really need some input today, my A is more then over (and I am okay with that, we've tried several times to end it and after yesterday it is over, been almost 2 years) but that isn't what is bothering me. It is the words he said to me, the way he made me feel and how cold and cruel he was.
We work together, he has been mean and cruel but NOT to this extent, I mean, we work together, you would think he wouldn't want to "rock the boat" and make it awkward for us, or make it an enviroment that is "hateful" for us, especially after I've been nothing (well 95%) good to him.
Here is what happened. For those who don't know, we had a fight last Friday, I was upset with his lack of communication, he said if I can't hanld it and can't handle being his "friend" then there isn't anything he can do about it, then said you let me know, so I replied and said no comment and we aren't friends, he said your loss

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Crazy,
Of course, I don't know your ex-AP, but I think he was probably mad that you weren't playing his game anymore, so he wanted to lash out and hurt you.
Crazy,
What an awful thing he's done to you and I know how painful it is for you right now. But here's the deal. DO NOT send him that final email to get it all off your chest. By all means, write down everything you want to say to him, but don't send it. Keep it saved somewhere. Here's why: he won't "get" it. Because guys like that only read and understand what they want to understand. They don't get women and our feelings and emotions. Everything is all about them. You are his third A?? What makes you think you are so special to him? Obviously you are not if he can so coldly turn on you like that. So why subject yourself to that kind of humiliation? It's very difficult to do, but there are ways to regain your dignity.
Wishing you strength and wisdom...
Well, tomorrow will be one week since sending him my "DONE WITH YOU" email and I must say I am glad I sent it. I know some of you said I shouldn't but I am relieved and am so glad that I decided to.
After all he has put me through, the way he has treated me for the past (almost) 2 years, after being nothing but sweet and so good to him this was MY TIME to "shine" and be rude and truthful, even with saying that, I was still "professional" and much better then him.
....and yes, I know I've subjected myself to his hurtful ways becuase I had the freedom to walk a long time ago and didn't and that is my fault no one elses, however that still does not give him (or anyone) the right to be so careless and hurtful. His telling my my H deserved better was the frosting on the cake for me and it sure made me realize SO VERY MUCH.
Since telling him to screw off it has been dead silence between us, He has been "around me" twice and both times I happened to be facing his direction but not once did I look at him, I couldn't even tell you what the man had on, even though I have found it easy I am proud of myself.
He what I feel, got ignornat once via email in regards to something dealing with work, but lets just say I stood up for myself and he didn't come back with anything, then a bit after that one of the guys came to me and said "here, blank-blank asked me to give you these"...lol, so clearly he doesn't want to deal wtih me anymore then I want to deal with him.....however what he had this guy give me was old, out-dated BS that could have just been thrown away and XAP KNOWS THIS so what was his point, SERIOUSLY?!?!?!
Ugh, just needed to vent a bit I guess. I do wonder if he feels bad for anything at all, if he has any regret for the way he treated me; after all, it was like I said, nearly 2 years of being "freinds" and now it is complete silence and coldness between us now. Kind of sad actually but he chose it, not me.
Thanks for hearing me .......
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