Baffled - totally speechless! AP wants..

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Baffled - totally speechless! AP wants..
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Sun, 11-22-2009 - 6:08am


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Registered: 11-22-2009
Sun, 11-22-2009 - 6:26am



Edited 11/22/2009 6:37 am ET by llostagain


Edited 11/30/2009 5:19 pm ET by llostagain

NC since Dec. 9th 2009

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Registered: 08-09-2009
Sun, 11-22-2009 - 8:08am

Bo, are you mistaking this board for EAS?

Your words are too harsh and i dont think you should be so pointed in your opinion. ILost knows AP is being unreasonable but hey, he made her feel like crap so why dont you pile it on too. Thats what we are here for right?

Lost, gotta hit that ignore button again. AP is pulling the double standard and you know all about his manipulations so you already know what youre heading into. He was going to break up the M before W fell pregnant and now he's thinking of leaving? He is just trying to keep you close IMO so you dont take away his extra-curricular activitiy. You will take it as long as you cant take it any more. Nothing will change unless you change it with him. Im sorry he makes you so mad though. Take up kickboxing...?

SB

Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
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Registered: 10-10-2009
Sun, 11-22-2009 - 11:32am
Men are stupid lol Im starting to think that men get more jealous then women. I'd rather know the truth too and that includes lying by omission. I think you should date and go on with your life...if he really wants you he'll leave his W. Keep in contact with him but I just wouldn't put everything on hold b/c you don't want to hurt his feelings. I don't get the double standard thing either as if the W doesn't count...
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Registered: 10-21-2009
Sun, 11-22-2009 - 2:44pm
I maybe missing something here as I don't really know your story - but it looks to me this guy is trying to control you and to make you feel bad. You shouldn't let him do that to you. You can't spend your life just sitting around and waiting on him when you're single and he's married. Go ahead and date all you want - but remember, you're not obligated to give him any details at all. He's noone to you. Next time, just say you don't want to talk about it, as it really none of his business.
My xAP tried to do the same to me - when I left him, he said he is a "free" man now, trying to make me jealous (idiot). I guess, wife of 20 years is no more than piece of furniture to him.
**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 08-28-2004
Sun, 11-22-2009 - 3:36pm

Hi llost,


what is wrong with these men?(not all men). My Ap almost had a cow yesterday because I was going out. He was all mopey and sad and jealous. It was kind of funny but I did feel bad for him, b/c I feel like that when he's with his W.


Anyway, I say to myself,

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2009
Sun, 11-22-2009 - 5:19pm
this is what I think. I think you should ignore ap and go out with that date guy again.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2007
Mon, 11-23-2009 - 12:52am

I can understand why he is upset (this is coming from a MW pov). The reason is because you don't know what you will get from kissing random guys you date.


Example: my Xap

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2009
Mon, 11-23-2009 - 8:43pm
Completely off topic but there is such a stigma on Herpes. Did you know that 1 in 4 women have it and 1 in 5 men have it. That you can be a carrier of it and never have an outbreak and pass it. Or have an outbreak many years later after contact with someone that has it. Yes people need to be careful and use protection but there are those out there that get it and it doesn't make them a whore whether it be a man or woman.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2007
Mon, 11-23-2009 - 8:48pm
I agree, it does not make a person a whore when they have it. Very easy to get even with only 1 or few partners in a lifetime. It's good to lessen
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Registered: 11-08-2009
Wed, 11-25-2009 - 3:12am

Who's going back and forth? I have been on the board for years. Thank you very much.

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