Bah Humbug Rant

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2007
Bah Humbug Rant
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Tue, 12-16-2008 - 1:52am




Dear AP's Wife -


Please keep your husband reined in and fix whatever his problem is. If you knew about me, you would be devestated. I do know about you, although I would prefer not to know as much as I do. Something is apparently wrong with your marriage that you are completely oblivious to and your husband has chosen to make my life an emotional hell. The irony being, I would like to be with him and I know about you, and it is unjust to both of us. He is too afraid of hurting you or leaving you, but it is apparenlty OK for him

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 12:36am
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2007
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 1:14am




Can you help me understand what it is that you think is outrageous about anything I said?


Or are you huffing and puffing just to huff and puff?




iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2007
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 7:14am

Sure I'd be happy to explain.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-24-2008
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 7:22am

Announcement!! You can cook everyday, iron his underwear, birth his children, clean his house, wash his clothes, and be Cindy Super Slut (no offense to anyone named Cindy) for him when he gets home, and you still run the risk that he will stray.

Now doing all these things makes it less likely, but chances are, if given the opportunity he will cheat.

Having said that......It seems to me that perhaps you are the one who is living in Wonderland thinking that your meeting his needs when she couldn't, but that is not necessarily the truth. For men variety is the spice of life. You're no better, just different. You can not just point the finger at one person that's in a two person relationship, and say "Hey, this is all your fault!" It goes both ways.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2007
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 8:02am

Okay, so you think kindness is the way to go.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 8:33am

Oh I see.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-31-2003
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 8:48am

Hi everyone,


Please remember that if you see a post you feel crosses the line and violates TOS or the Rules of Play you're asked to report the post and then ignore it, as opposed to policing the board yourself.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2007
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 8:58am

What??

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 9:16am

You

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-02-2000
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 3:23pm

Honestly, I don't understand this. It's like if there is something posted that doesn't agree with or reinforce what someone is saying, then they're not being supportive, they're not being nice, they're not playing right. Support can come in many fashions. It isn't always hand-holding and agreeing with someone. I don't get why people think others aren't being nice just because they're voicing things that aren't sugar coated. It's one thing if someone were being abusive to a poster. But that isn't the case here. And quite frankly, if it were, they would be blocked.

Yes, this is an affair support board. It's not an Agree With Everything You Say Board. Yes, most people on this board are either involved in an affair or have been in the past. But that doesn't mean that they resent their affair partner's spouse. And if they do, they voice it a little more, shall we say, tactfully. I am one that happened to find what was posted to be certainly b*tchy, even downright a little creepy. But do I think she doesn't have a right to post it? No, I don't think that. But, come on, anyone with some common sense would have to know that posting that would stir up some discussion, some controversy. The original poster does not strike me through her writings as being stupid. So, I'm fairly certain she knew what she was doing. And truth be told, I would rather see some entertaining debating than the same old, same old thing over and over again. So, in a sense, her post is a good one.

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