Bah Humbug Rant

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Registered: 05-20-2007
Bah Humbug Rant
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Tue, 12-16-2008 - 1:52am




Dear AP's Wife -


Please keep your husband reined in and fix whatever his problem is. If you knew about me, you would be devestated. I do know about you, although I would prefer not to know as much as I do. Something is apparently wrong with your marriage that you are completely oblivious to and your husband has chosen to make my life an emotional hell. The irony being, I would like to be with him and I know about you, and it is unjust to both of us. He is too afraid of hurting you or leaving you, but it is apparenlty OK for him

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 3:55pm
now on this, i do agree with you...if someone is tired of being the shoulder...or tired of the affair..then yes DO get out of it....i totally agree with that....if she's not tired then, why get out? maybe she's not tired of the whole thing yet but, tired of some of the crap he hands her....when she is she'll get out..if she ever gets tired of it......feel me....all a's are different ...remember that...true they all are "affairs" but different in their own ways

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 08-19-2008
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 4:06pm

>>>"Yet you then say she's bashing her AP's spouse? Aren't we all in affairs which are by their very nature, bashing spouses? "<<<

Well then, since you've had that enlightenment, use that reason to stop bashing your AP's W anymore, and get out of your A.

FYI? I was the one who was M (now D) and my AP was single and D (that's why I was "not" bashing anyone's W). I may have been bashing my exH by having an A while we were still M, but it has nothing to do with how "he" wasn't fixing "our" problem. I was the straying type (I guess) and therefore, my problem alone to atone. And, I wouldn't want him bashed by other people on a public message board.



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Registered: 10-03-2008
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 4:12pm

then again memorysong..all this may exist in his world but not his w's..she may be clueless..maybe her AP truly does feel this way about his "W" but, is afraid to tell her...you gotta come out the box and look at all 8 sides of it...


i wouldn't know..my ap never talks about his W..and i mean never...has never said a BAD thing about her, her looks, never complained about her nothing...he just has said that she loves him very much, and it's very hard for him to have two beautiful women that love him very much...and contends that he is "in love" with me and "loves" me

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 4:18pm
and i agree with this as well...however, different case in point....someone else can always come along in your life to whom you feel connected...may not have known they existed...but you've made a committment to what you saw at the time you saw it..earlier on...and you stick by your committment after you've created a family and a life...but you want that everything from that other someone...it's just so hard because all A's are different....umph...this is a very tangled web we weave

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 4:50pm

While we can certainly sympathize and relate to people who have found themselves in affairs, and offer support, it's very difficult to

 

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 4:58pm

There are a few women on this board whose posts I just LOVE to read and try to

 

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 5:15pm

I don't know...to me all affairs are the same...people betraying people...all just a variation on a theme...only because we are individuals, each with our own story.


Yes, everyone has their


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Registered: 02-18-2004
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 6:15pm

I've only got a minute here.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2007
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 6:31pm

Oh jazz, you're such a right fighter...and I guess for you , ignorance is bliss...how sad.


Yeah, you better get going, I'm sure there are a few drunk drivers on the road that you can help blame the liquor stores and bars that got them there....


 

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Registered: 08-19-2008
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 7:35pm

Thanks Bell, didn't I already said you're one of my hero in one of them these here threads??? Yeah, you are!

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