Bah Humbug Rant

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Registered: 05-20-2007
Bah Humbug Rant
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Tue, 12-16-2008 - 1:52am




Dear AP's Wife -


Please keep your husband reined in and fix whatever his problem is. If you knew about me, you would be devestated. I do know about you, although I would prefer not to know as much as I do. Something is apparently wrong with your marriage that you are completely oblivious to and your husband has chosen to make my life an emotional hell. The irony being, I would like to be with him and I know about you, and it is unjust to both of us. He is too afraid of hurting you or leaving you, but it is apparenlty OK for him

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Wed, 12-24-2008 - 7:57am

That "bitterness" you're hearing is coming from inside your own head survivor.

 

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Wed, 12-24-2008 - 8:33am

honestly i believe what he says...my heart is open and on my sleeve and i've allowed myself to become involved with someone who is committed to their family....that's on me....what i will say is that my AP is very

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Wed, 12-24-2008 - 9:06am

Oh, you responded to me...thought you had me on ignore.


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Registered: 08-02-2000
Wed, 12-24-2008 - 4:03pm
Although I believe that you probably believe that sending the flowers to the past BS was just a way of putting an end to something, there was some self-righteous pleasure you got out of it, too. You had to have. Or you would not have done it. And quite honestly, saying that it was the way to end things that had no end to it is a cop-out. You could have also just simply ended it like everyone else does. Even if it required a restraining order, should a simple "it's over" not work. What I just don't get about you is how you can keep evading the issue and not just admit that for whatever the reasons or motivation, this was just not something very nice to do.
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Registered: 05-20-2007
Wed, 12-24-2008 - 11:01pm




You're right, sending the flowers was not a nice thing to do, but enither is sleeping with someone


else's SO or H or W. Most A's are manipulative and deceitful in every sense, flowers are not


out of context. :0


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Registered: 12-05-2004
Thu, 12-25-2008 - 2:37am

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Registered: 04-11-2005
Fri, 12-26-2008 - 9:52pm

Hey,

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Sun, 12-28-2008 - 1:27pm

Wow - what a thread!!


First - my apologies to all for being late to the party - if you read my other thread you know why.


I'm not going to try to cover everything that has been discussed here - I think you all did a fine job on your own - so let me touch on a few things that jump out at me.


First and foremost - this is a Support board - and as any of you who have been around for a while know - I'll fight to the death to keep it supportive.

lightning in my heart

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Registered: 10-24-2008
Mon, 12-29-2008 - 1:44am

tgrbabe, you are just SO sweet, and kind. Not to mention graceful. It's hard for me to picture you white knuckling the phone wondering if he is going to call, or second guessing yourself the way that ONLY an A can make you do. I thank you for all the wisdom that you have passed on to us, and for all your heartfelt kind words at just the right time.

Again, thank you.

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