Beating the Odds

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Beating the Odds
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Sun, 01-04-2004 - 6:28am
From what I've read, the odds of a married man leaving his wife for his lover and the new marriage lasting, (this board and my old math), are about 2.5%.

My MM is getting a divorce. We're talking about marriage. Any advice from everyone here about how to beat those odds?

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Registered: 12-31-2003
In reply to: cazrida
Sat, 01-10-2004 - 5:24pm
Cazrida,

I too am very very sad to hear about the passing of you mom and the frail condition of you dad. I can really tell by your post that you sincerely did not set out hurt MM's STBX. As if dealing with that is not emotional enough, you were dealing with two ill parents and now, the passing of your Mom.

Being that you are no longer married, you are not involved with an EMA, but MM is (or was), as Gurl pointed out. I guess what is just as hearbreaking as a marriage spliting up is if two people TRULY meant to be together, but really can't due to being with someone else. From what you wrote, it certainly SOUNDS as if you and MM are meant for each other. If you are, more power to you and I wish you nothing but the best. As Free put it, if there are any ways to beat the 2.5% success rate, the odds would not be 2.5%. Time will tell, and it always tells an interesting story in the end. Your post is a good one with lots of support from others. It would be best to hear from women who have been happily married to former MM's, now their H's for some years. However, it is unlikely that they would have any reason to post on this board.

At least your soon to be H was man enough to file for divorce instead of stringing his W along. Why he choose to do that AFTER she found out about you and AFTER 25 years of marriage without having love for this woman (instead of divorcing sooner, as many people do) I will have to ponder(being that I am Pensiveone).

Pen

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