Beginning of divorce - now how to deal?

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Registered: 02-05-2010
Beginning of divorce - now how to deal?
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Fri, 02-05-2010 - 9:13pm

The man I have been having an affair with for over a year got caught and his wife made him leave the house. Discussions have started about separating, kids, etc. Only now, he is avoiding me. Where we would talk ten times a day, I barely hear from him. And when I do...it isn't the loving conversation. I understand he is in pain but by the way he is acting, I can't be sure he wants to leave her.

I am trying to be supportive and give space, but I am going crazy. I have been looking online for books on this kind of thing...nothing.

Any advice on how to deal with this transition would be helpful.

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Registered: 11-29-2006
Tue, 02-09-2010 - 4:43pm
Hi never, I think it's difficult even when you're just friends with someone who's divorcing, but to be intimately involved with him has to make it even more so, especially since he's got to try to keep you out of the separation and divorce proceedings as much as possible.

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