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| Sat, 05-01-2010 - 8:13pm |
Hi Everybody,
Im new here, well Ive been lurking for some time now. Im looking for honest advice cause anymore I feel so confused.
Heres some history: Im M and AP is single and in a LDR.

This man seems like bad news and you are willingly opening up yourself for more hurt. He ended it with you in one-line email after you uprooted your whole life for him. How do you know he won't do that again? He treats you like a backup - comes back when his next woman wised up and dumped him.
So I'd say - proceed with extreme caution. But from your past history, it is obvious that it won't end nicely for you, and I think you know that too. He betrayed your trust and caused you and your family tremendous damage - most liklely, he will do it again, because he's blowing cold already.
Good luck and take a good care of yourself.
XOXO
Gone
Then last summer, he left my home upset with me over something completely stupid and send me an email telling me it was over. Literally just a one line email.
AP moved right on to another woman, I was devastated.
Something isnt feeling right
he shows no interested again anytime soon. Ive brought all of this up to him and all I get is 'I understand' & "I thought we werent rushing things'.
It feels like hes keeping me within arms reach for some reason and I dunno if the writting is all on the wall and Im just to blind to see it again.
You're not blind - you are seeing it - every instinct you have is telling you the truth. Trust your instincts. This guy is bad news, IMO. He's shown you that once, don't let him put you through that agony again.
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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Thank you all for replying; I really needed some guidance.
Proceed with caution- was my mind set since AP came back. I had my back up and figured I can play this game too. But the more I talked to him the more the spark began to grow. And I dont want to get in too deep again and end up hurt. Past behavior does predict future behavior, I guess Im just having a hard time accepting it....all for self reasons. I mean AP's are feel goods, right?
I did love this man..I put everything on the line for him and ended up with f*ck all but a broken heart. I think part of me wants him and wants this to work and to irgone everything else. But when I try it always comes running back up to the front of my head.
I keep reminding myself that 'that was then and this is now' and things are VERY different. Realistically-is this man going to move 500 miles away from his home, leave his job, family &friends? The fansty part of an A tells me, he will he loves me and one day he will be all mine. Reality tells me, he didnt before after 4 years of a relationship- he seems to have a dysfunctional relationship with his mother(huge issue between us)
You've already made a list of why you can't go down that road again...EVERY time you start to have those "warm fuzzies" about him...review the list...even if it's just mentally. Our heart WILL follow our head, but there is significant lag time and I can almost guarantee it will take far longer than what you think. Stay the course and know that deep down you know this is no good...in time :)