The best way to respond

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Registered: 05-19-2004
The best way to respond
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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 10:35am
I lurk here every now and then but have never posted. I am M, but have a friend that I talk to every day and have for 7 months. He is unhappy in his M and I am at times but not so bad you know. I have always known that he feels more towards me than I do for him. He knows this too, it's no secret.

Anyways, I have felt for a long time that I need to stop him before he gets too far in. Well today I know that I have to just tell him that it's got to stop. He told me this morning that he is in love with me and he has never been in love with someone like this ever. Not even is wife ! I can't continue to let him do this to himself. It's not right.



What would be the best way to tell him that that it's got to end now and be nice about it ?

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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 10:46am
I don't know if this will help, but my mm broke off our relationship after 6 weeks and I was sooo disappointed. He came down to my office to talk to me because I was so upset. What he said to me during that conversation meant a lot to me. He told me that he was a loving person, and he could see himself torn between me and his W if it had gone on any longer. It made me feel like even though it was ending, I was special to him. It made it easier on me, so maybe you could take that and word so it applies to your situation.

It is never "easy" to do this kind of thing, you just have to put yourself in their shoes and think about how you would want to be treated. The "love" thing really makes it tougher but you can't keep it up if you don't feel that way


good luck

dd