Between his W & his job, I could scream
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Between his W & his job, I could scream
| Mon, 05-24-2004 - 10:02pm |
So my MM was supposed to come over tonite. But once again I come in second. I swear if it's not because of his W then it's his job he's M to. We only see each other on weeknights (three or four times a week in the beginning) but just for an hour or two. He leaves work and then comes to my place and then heads home under the guise of working later on a regular basis than he actually does. But he does in fact have a demanding job, he runs companies for a living, or gets them out of the hole and then finds someone else to run it and he moves on to the next one. Well right now he is working on two, one he is trying to save from bankruptcy and one he is trying to bring back after an imbezzelment situation and put the safety nets in place so it doesn't happen again. Though I am incredibly proud of him and what he does, it drives me insane how obsessed and involved he becomes.
It's hard enough that I don't get much time with him because he doesn't want his W to get suspicious but then when he has these demands because of his job, I feel like I'm fighting two uphill battles. If I'm not fighting against the time he needs to spend at home then I'm fighting against the time he needs to spend at work. And don't even get me started on his precious "golf game"!!!
He knows I can't see him this Wed. or Thurs. night because my parents will be visiting but still I lose to his "obligations" at work. He is STILL working at 9:00pm, he started work at 8:00am!! How frustrating!!
Sorry, needed to vent. Anyone else feel they play second to more than just the W?
Brin

Hi Brin,
My MM too is very, very busy at present... being an accountant he does go through stages but this is the worst I have seen him.
I find it very frustrating at times... however I am very conscious of putting any pressure on him.
Sweet
Co-Community Leader My
-his kids
-his job
-his kids and their sports
-his sports
-his weekend getaway house
-his clients
-her b.s.
...i could go on and on...you are not alone - but that is why we are here - isn't it?
(some days i just wish he would get his balls outta her wallet and MOVE out!)
db
;)
Thanks for the chuckle, I really needed that! :):)
Thanks to everyone for being here to listen, it helps to know I'm not the only one dealing with this very complicated reality.
Brin
OMG I could have written that post! My mm is a vp for a RE/investment co. We do business with people from abroad as well. If he isn't running investors around town, he is sitting in his office on the computer answering emails, doing projections and budgets, all the while the phone is attached to his ear! We both want to be totally discreet and agreed to Contact mainly M-F between the hours of 9-5. If he finds a window in his day for me he calls me. I try to keep things going by calling him in the beginning of the week to see how his week is going to be. The kicker is he schedules himself and has what he calls a "diary" (HAH you should see this thing) but otherwise finds it "a challenge" to keep everything in his head! He also says he cannot get away on the weekends at all... so what fun this is! I do tell him all the time though that I understand. He has apologized on more than one occasion for the job interfering with out ability to be together. I try hard to understand and I do because I HAVE been busy, too busy to think about him and call. Besides he has said his W complains .
We have to have the most perfect timing... I would love to have been able to get together 3 times a week! The most we have been able to was 2 times inthe MONTH. Just last week on Mon I called to see how his week was shaping up. He said towards the end of the week it would lighten up, but then you never know. So I scheduled my business for the first part. Tues afternoon I am at the office (40 min away) and I call him for something relating to business and he answers all hot and heavy. I was around other people so I just said "I'm in the office" He said "WHAT are you doing THERE!" Uhhhh working! He had like 45 min and wanted me over his house. I live 5 min away from him. He is so used to me being there at his beck and call he was shocked. Then Thurs I called and he was too busy and Friday was going to be the same. He leaves next week for two weeks and if we don't hook up this week I wont be with him for a record 5 or 6 weeks!
So yeah I can relate unfortunately
dd
Edited 5/25/2004 7:34 am ET ET by deedee5678
While I would LOVE to have MM available for me whenever I want him, which is all the time, I know he has responsibilies that must come before me. I knew that going in. To be truthful, I wouldn't think very highly of my MM if he put me before his child or work. I live my life, and schedule time for MM when I am free, but I don't rearrange my schedule for him, since my life is as busy as his.
He already has work and the W which are stressors, he certainly doesn't need me pulling at him as well. I care for my MM, and want what is best for him, which is as little stress as possible. If he wanted a demanding shrew, he has one in his W, and wouldn't be looking elsewhere. :)