I applaud your courage to just say it's OVER. With me..I'm just not responding to him again as I try for, I hope the last round of NC. I thought about sending an email to say "It's OVER" but why bother? He's left me hanging countless times. I feel strong today in my resolve to be done..but I know how it's tripped me up in the past..every time I heard from him. I pray this time I will finally, finally get it done. I'm so tired of the humiliation these A's bring. So tired of it.
YOU GO GIRL!!!! I am so proud that you chose to stand up to him, and stand up for yourself. You will see as the fog lifts things will be clearer, and your choices won't seem so difficult to make. That's not to say that you won't stumble or cry or get really frustrated. What it does mean is that the things that you once tolerated, and saw as "normal" for your relationship while in the A, will all of a sudden look so strange and unimaginable.
For example AP asks you out to dinner. You get a shower get all ready, and wait in anticipation for him to arrive (Now I know that this is an A, and it may not go down just like I describe, but you'll get the point" An hour goes by, and you start calling, and paging, no luck. Another hour goes by, now you don't know whether to be angry or worried. More calling, textin', and paging, no luck. Hour three goes by, and you take off you dress and bra, and cry yourself to sleep. The next day he calls, and something had come w/ the W, and/or kids, and gives you some Bullcrap reason, but you except it, because you know where on list of priorities you are (we all are).....the bottom. So he apologizes a hundred times and sets a new dinner date, and you (we) happily except because we don't get much time together, and wouldn't want to waste an opportunity to see each other.
After the fog lifts.....after a half an hour of him not showing up you start calling, and paging, no luck. At the top of the 2nd hour, you take off you dress and bra, put on something flannel on, and pop some popcorn, and watch a movies, and enjoy your alone time. Then it dawns on you "Damn, not so long ago I would have waited for this Joker for three hours, and would have been heart broken, but now I can totally handle this situation w/ less emotion, and more common sense." If he doesn't show up screw him, his loss! Then the next day he calls w/ some bullcrap reason, and asks you out for another date, and you tell him to "Piss off!" And it will FEEL so good. Do you see how different the reaction is to the same situation? Your perception has changed, the fog has lifted and you can now see him for what he REALLY is. A great big......Jerk!
Yes, you will miss him, and yes your heart will ache, and yes it DOES get better. You can do it. I have faith in you.
Congratulations, offsides, for ending your affair and stepping off the emotional rollercoaster.
I applaud your courage to just say it's OVER. With me..I'm just not responding to him again as I try for, I hope the last round of NC. I thought about sending an email to say "It's OVER" but why bother? He's left me hanging countless times. I feel strong today in my resolve to be done..but I know how it's tripped me up in the past..every time I heard from him. I pray this time I will finally, finally get it done. I'm so tired of the humiliation these A's bring. So tired of it.
Good luck and stay strong!!
Peace & Love
Logan
YOU GO GIRL!!!! I am so proud that you chose to stand up to him, and stand up for yourself. You will see as the fog lifts things will be clearer, and your choices won't seem so difficult to make. That's not to say that you won't stumble or cry or get really frustrated. What it does mean is that the things that you once tolerated, and saw as "normal" for your relationship while in the A, will all of a sudden look so strange and unimaginable.
For example AP asks you out to dinner. You get a shower get all ready, and wait in anticipation for him to arrive (Now I know that this is an A, and it may not go down just like I describe, but you'll get the point" An hour goes by, and you start calling, and paging, no luck. Another hour goes by, now you don't know whether to be angry or worried. More calling, textin', and paging, no luck. Hour three goes by, and you take off you dress and bra, and cry yourself to sleep. The next day he calls, and something had come w/ the W, and/or kids, and gives you some Bullcrap reason, but you except it, because you know where on list of priorities you are (we all are).....the bottom. So he apologizes a hundred times and sets a new dinner date, and you (we) happily except because we don't get much time together, and wouldn't want to waste an opportunity to see each other.
After the fog lifts.....after a half an hour of him not showing up you start calling, and paging, no luck. At the top of the 2nd hour, you take off you dress and bra, put on something flannel on, and pop some popcorn, and watch a movies, and enjoy your alone time. Then it dawns on you "Damn, not so long ago I would have waited for this Joker for three hours, and would have been heart broken, but now I can totally handle this situation w/ less emotion, and more common sense." If he doesn't show up screw him, his loss! Then the next day he calls w/ some bullcrap reason, and asks you out for another date, and you tell him to "Piss off!" And it will FEEL so good. Do you see how different the reaction is to the same situation? Your perception has changed, the fog has lifted and you can now see him for what he REALLY is. A great big......Jerk!
Yes, you will miss him, and yes your heart will ache, and yes it DOES get better. You can do it. I have faith in you.
" I never wanted you anyway"?? Wow.