Bigger Fish to Fry

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Bigger Fish to Fry
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Thu, 04-01-2004 - 11:52am
I have knots in my stomach today. The weekend is approaching, and I may very well find myself in an awkward position.

You see, in my city, the elementary schools have "Science Fairs", winners move on to "Board Science Fair", and those winners move on to "Regional Science Fair" - my daughter is fortunate enough to be involved in the Regionals.

Problem, my xMM's son is also in Regionals.

Normally, we would have had no outside contact. We do not have the same friends, or even live in the same community.

My H met xMM a couple of times when we worked together.

Now, we parents will be participating in the exhibition this weekend, and then also for awards ceremonies. I'm afraid that my H might recognize xMM - and in his fragile state this week due to all of my revelations of late - I'm afraid of what may transpire.

I have already told xMM, that we should pretend we don't know each other at all - and he has agreed (I really don't want to meet his W either). But, what am I going to do if H realizes who it is?

I've been contemplating telling H that xMM will be there, but something is stopping me.

This is one of those roller coaster hills that I don't like. Any advice?

Red

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Registered: 11-11-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 3:03pm
Hi Red. Sounds like this is going to be a tough weekend for you. In my opinion, I don't think you should tell H that xMM will be there. It will just make him look at every man that passes and glances your way and it will only be upsetting. I think you are making the right decision to pretend that you don't know each other. If H does recognize xMM, what are the odds that he would put 2 & 2 together.

I know this weekend will be difficult for you and I wish you luck. Sending hugs your way.

NG

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Registered: 06-29-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 9:47pm
Hi Red, I agree with numbersgirl. I would imagine there are going to be a lot of people there at this event. In this case, the larger the crowd the better. If your H should spot him, you will have to deal with it at that point but I would guess that the first thing you would tell your H is to be on his best behavior for your daughter's sake, and he would probably comply. I agree, it's a sticky situation. Can you maybe go and your H stay home? I don't know how involved your H is in your daughter's activities, but just a thought. My H generally never wanted to get involved in our kids school events, (which used to piss me off). Hopefully you won't run into xMM while you are there. Perhaps you could ask him where he thinks he will be sitting in the audience, so that you can go to another area of the building. Either way, I know you will be sweating it out. Let me know what happens...Virgogirl
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Registered: 04-01-2004
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 9:54pm
My opinion is go and be with H --- don't tell him x-MM may be there - why does he need to deal with that -

Just go and be there for your child - isn't that what the Science Fair is all about ??

I think you are worrying about the wrong things here -

If you and H and working things out then go and be supportive of what is important to you - YOUR FAMILY !!!

Good Luck - and smile - it won't matter to x-MM if you are looking miserable

You can do it - good luck at the Science Fair !!!

Kikki