Biggest Issues In Your Affair??

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Registered: 05-09-2012
Biggest Issues In Your Affair??
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Mon, 08-13-2012 - 10:45pm

What are some of the biggest issues in your affair?  What at the end of the day or week makes you want to pull your hair out, or hide under a rock?

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Registered: 05-09-2012
Mon, 08-13-2012 - 10:47pm

Insecurity:  I think sometimes if he's not constantly talking to me or such that he'll forget about me and not want me anymore.

Over Analyzing:  I over analyze everything!  Whether it's good or bad I will twist it until I make myself think it's bad.

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Registered: 05-15-2012
Tue, 08-14-2012 - 9:26am

That I have this really great girl, a friend and a lover, and I can't show her off to my friends and family.  That we're mildly content with the exciting and passionate moments when we get time together.  She's my secret and I am hers.  In some ways it's nice having that much trust in someone, but having to hide it, simply sucks.

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Registered: 05-09-2012
Tue, 08-14-2012 - 10:21am

I'm sorry Sonyut.  You've been in your A for quite a while haven't you?

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Registered: 06-03-2012
Tue, 08-14-2012 - 10:40am

Sonyut, I resonate with your response. AP and I have been together nearing 4 years, I'm married, he is single, I have not told a soul, wish i could shout it out!

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Registered: 05-09-2012
Tue, 08-14-2012 - 4:14pm

Ah I guess that's a couple more for me:

I hate that I feel that I can't tell him how I feel because I fear he'll want to end it or won't tell me it back.

I don't mention AP and W's relationship.  Once in a while he'll be mad enough to tell me what is going on but besides that I don't ask and I don't want to know.  However, AP will bring H and I's relationship including sex life up quite often.  It's like he's fishing to see how often I'm with H sexually.  I just give him this look or ignore him.

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Tue, 08-14-2012 - 8:46pm

Different needs and expectations.  I like to get what I want!  And he wouldn't give me what I wanted.  That made me mad and frustrated.  And I am sure that it made him feel pressured and unhappy when I was wanting more than he could give me and being pretty vocal about it.

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Registered: 05-31-2011
Wed, 08-15-2012 - 9:17am
Same here...
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Registered: 03-30-2010
Fri, 08-17-2012 - 3:35pm
Single, think about it would you want the life his wife has? She hasn't a clue as to who her H is or what he's doing. Believe me you wouldn't want to have her life. God only knows what she has to endure and put up with. Enjoy your single life, your friends, family, freedom and the fact that you have no1 to tie you down. Keep your options open and enjoy life. This married man is a lesson for you right now and an experience you will never forget. Trust & believe the grass ain't always greener.

Hope your going out this weekend and enjoying yourself = )

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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