Birth Control

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2009
Birth Control
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Tue, 02-03-2009 - 3:56pm

Any suggestions on this topic? My AP and I are mostly a EA as he lives long distance and we don't see each other often. The last time we would have done the deed but it was that time of month for me. So, we are planning our next visit in April and I didn't know if anyone had any suggestions on what to do about birth control besides condoms which he has already told me spoils his fun. I of course, want him to have fun too. He's been tested so I know he's clean, I just don't want to get pregnant as I am still a very fertile person. I will insist on condoms if there are no other options. I also don't want to make H suspicious as he's been snipped so no need for birth control from that end.

Suggestions?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2004
Tue, 02-03-2009 - 4:49pm
Don't forget that you can still get std's. Maybe he is clean and then again maybe not. It is really a crap shoot.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2008
Tue, 02-03-2009 - 5:13pm
too bad if it spoils his fun!!!!! You have to protect yourself from STDs. You could also go on the pill. Many women go on the pill to regulate their periods. I would use this in conjuction with a condom...if he doesnt like it then he doesnt care about you as much as you thought
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Tue, 02-03-2009 - 8:04pm

Condoms for both the prevention of


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2008
Wed, 02-04-2009 - 11:42am

I agree 100% with WHO CARES IF IT SPOILS HIS FUN?? You need to think about YOU.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2009
Wed, 02-04-2009 - 12:18pm
I understand all the risks but was just curious and it sounds like a lot of people use condoms with their AP. He didn't say anything to me about this and had no problem when we discussed using condoms - which we will likely do. Especially considering it will be prime time fertile time for me during our next visit. It's me that wants him to enjoy it to, and who cares if it spoils his fun? I DO!
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Wed, 02-04-2009 - 12:39pm

Well, it seemed from your post that he was whining about a condom spoiling all the fun and I sensed that he might have a problem using one.


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2009
Wed, 02-04-2009 - 12:51pm
Thank you! I realize the importance, and am mostly worried about the baby part. That would destroy me! Though AP would be thrilled!
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Wed, 02-04-2009 - 1:07pm
Not taking away that a baby would destroy you, but

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2009
Wed, 02-04-2009 - 2:03pm
I agree - it sure would!