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| Sat, 11-22-2003 - 8:55pm |
I know I shouldn't have expectations or to fall in love with him, but he keeps telling me he's going to get divorced soon...and I ask when and he's like in 1-2 years. I don't know if I should belive him and if he's leading me on. I'm so confused. He keeps telling me he wants to be serious and committed and it's not an affair and I'm not the Other Woman. He says he doesn't see his ex except when his son is involved. And he says I'm not patient...but I've fallen for him and I'm going nuts. I don't want to sneak around, I just want a regular relationship. But then on the other hand, I'm not sure if I can handle a regular relationship w/ him because he has to watch son 2 weeks a month and ex is still involved and will be if they divorce. There's alot of problems and issues.
And I don't feel like I'm top priority. He says I'm greedy, selfish, and not understanding of his situation, but it's my birthday party. Now I have no plans, but at least I'm with my parents. And I haven't met his son. Do you think I'm expecting too much and getting my hopes up? Should I move on?
This relationship stresses me out and I feel so bummed. I think I really want a regular relationship. It's been a year together, originally I was going to just have a 1-2 month fling, but I guess I've fallen. He's not the type I imagine being married to, and tackling being stepmom and other issues isn't something I have in mind (I'm in my twenties) and he's forty something. My parents/friends my age wouldn't approve. I love him, I want more time together...yet sometimes I want to leave, I'm so confused. What to do?

I hope by something you mean asprine!!!
No one but no one is so important that you need to take anything, I hope I'm over reacting by this post.
if he really wanted to be with you on your birthday night, he would have rearranged the family dinner to another night and still have celebrated with you! but he didn't, plus he didn't even call you - how hard is it to excuse yourself for 5 minutes to make an important call, or even he to the restroom and do it!!
you are soooo young, and i'll bet pretty and fun, too. MM's a player and not worth your time and effort. keep your self-respect, DO NOT CONTACT MM! go out with friends, date, do stuff. don't sit home, with a headache, and go to bed early. get out there and party!! like it's your birthday!!
good luck, honey,
gurl