Bit sad now......

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Bit sad now......
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Mon, 07-12-2010 - 6:39am

Hi all


Well the good news its my birthday tomorrow and I have a facial booked. Bad news is my lunch with AP was cancellked today :(


He had told me that he had booked a surprise. I was so excited this morning. But he

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Registered: 06-02-2010
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 7:36am
how can this affair be a priority for him ? I have rarely seen men who consider their mistress as priority . It doesn't happen .
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Registered: 03-29-2010
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 8:54am

You're right - you have to be gracious, his little boy is very sick. No matter what else is in your life, if one of your kids gets sick or is trouble, that overshadows everything else. It doesn't stop when they're grown up either! I hope his little boy is OK. Asthma sounds so benign and mild, but many people die from it every year.

I'm sorry you've been disappointed though! Hope you have a happy birthday anyway. Any way you could keep the reservation and use it with someone else? You could just say you wanted to go somewhere nice for your birthday! (Just make sure the name of the reservation is YOURS and not APs if you do that LOL...)

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Registered: 06-25-2007
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 6:40pm

Hi IGS :-) ...first of all ...HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! (is it tomorrow there yet?)


I am really sorry your plans fell through , I know how much it meant to you that he'd arranged to meet for your birthday.

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Registered: 06-25-2007
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 6:43pm

Bestie !?


.....you bad *BAD* boy! Tut tut !!

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 8:18pm

Thanks all.


Bird- I think Iggy sounds just lovely thank you- and will be by new signature moniker :)


I didnt use the reservation, I like the fact that

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Registered: 09-07-2009
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 10:39pm

"how can this affair be a priority for him ?"

Believe me it happens....smart sucessful yummy men can make their lover a priority......O yes it does happen.

Bestplayer stop being a playa on this board and go find an AP ..wink ....While me and my guy keep rocking each others world..

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 12:55am

Well he texted. Son is ok and he's off OS. It was a sweet text sending 'wet passionate kisses' for my birthday. More apologies for the cancelled restaurant yesterday.


So... not sure when I'll hear from him next. I sent him a text straight back asking if we will be in contact while he's over there. Im sure he would have said 'talk to you in 3 weeks' or 'good luck with the op' if I wasnt to hear from him at all till he gets back.


This is EXACTLY why affairs suck. He booked a lovely restaurant, but genuinely couldnt make it, I know he thinks of me, but I have no idea what he really feels or when I'll hear from him. Honestly the angst of it all seems to overshadow the great stuff most of the time.


So now I have 2 weeks till my op and I'll concentrate on my health. No idea when I'll hear from bugalugs or if he even got me a gift! I know that sounds selfish but he got me such a lovely gift last year and I am worried that a lesser or no gift this year signifies lessened feelings. He says he wont talk feelings etc but I had hoped the feelings were the same. Ahhh feel a bit tragic now.


:(

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Tue, 07-13-2010 - 1:24am

Oh update


He called from airport. Yes we can try to text over there but he's not sure what will get through- new phone and he's not tech savvy. But he will definately get something through before I have my op - so that makes me feel better. I had previously asked him to do that and he said 'I may not have much luck organising things, but I do remember everything you say'. This meant a lot because with my H, I am constantly reminding him oif things.


I also asked if he had got me a gift- I said I know its a selfish question but I really need to know. He said yes but I can suffer the suspense and not find out until I get well.


So I feel so much better now. Again the ups and downs of my feelings based on him- is plain old wrong!


Iggyxxx

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 9:58am

Ahhh "tragic"! If you like to read and you like the 18th/19th/early 20th century sort of tragic romance books, read Edith Wharton or Collette LOL. I recommend Edith Wharton's "Age of Innocence" - shows that adultery is certainly not a new thing, and when we're feeling "tragic" it's perfect LOL.

I'll bet he got you a gift - unless lunch at the restaurant WAS the gift - in which case he'd better get his butt in gear and get you another one! LOL!

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Registered: 06-02-2010
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 10:30am
I tried my best to be a good boy but always failed , so i gave up trying.

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