Blessing In Disguise !

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Blessing In Disguise !
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Fri, 01-16-2009 - 5:08am

I wont go in too much detail now but the short story is that my AP is moving in to my place this weekend.YES !! His STBX W found out in the worst possible way, no way of hiding it from her.All came out in open and she now wants a D asap!! Am i happy? top of the world but sorry for my AP.He now has to deal with a lot of drama but i am going to be on his side.His STBX W is already a drama-queen and will make the D process a hell for us.

I will post again with update but probably with a different screen-name.His STBX W might try to gather all info possible so i dont want her to track down the details i have posted here.

Good luck to all here.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2009
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 5:44am

I'm sorry to hear about Ap's D-day, it's never a pretty site when that happens. I can tell you that you're right when you say that she is going to make D painful. I mean D is always sad, even if you're the one who wanted it. The death of a marriage is never a festive time. Well, I take that back, I suppose for some it is, but I think deep down it is always sad on some level, even if it's only because of the kids.

You're being very smart about being very cautious w/ what you put out there for her to find. The more she knows the more she will hurt, and you don't want it to be any worse for her than it already is, but you already knew that.

I guess the only advice that I can give you is to brace yourself. Anything really can happen from here. I don't want to preach doom and gloom, but really it could go anywhere from here. You two could make it through this relatively unscathed, and live happily ever after. But she could change her mind after the dust settles and come to the conclusion that she doesn't want him to be w/ you, and offer to let him come back. I don't know how long you, and AP have been together, but that is going to be a dominate factor as to whether it will work out or not. If you've been seeing each other for only a couple weeks then I would be cautious, but if you've been together a while then you have a better chance of pulling through. It has to be jarring to all of a sudden be thrown together, and have to adjust to living w/ each other. I love my AP w/ all my being, but to have him move in on short notice like that would be a little unsettling, wonderful, but unsettling.

Whatever happens, I wish you much luck, you're going to need it.

Justice