Hey Janey- dont feel bad sweetheart. I think as women we tend to hover around the 'oh I dont want to say my feelings in case I scare this precious fragile wild animal away'.
Well F%$# that! Sometimes we have to say 'I am WOMAN hear me roar baby!' and if you dont like what I have to say- on your bike buddy- there's one just like you around the corner- but you wont find another ME!
You go Jane! Way to put it all out there! You must be very relieved to have gotten it out. I felt the same way when I told MM how I felt/what I wanted, just relieved to have it out there. I am sure he had an idea about this, but it will be interesting to see if/how he responds. Be proud of yourself for speaking (or chatting) your mind!
Wow! I'm just amazed that you jumped in and did this. I'm also amazed that you truly feel like you're in love with him. You're right, if that's how you feel, you should tell him and let him understand the ramifications of everything. I can't help but be really curious as to how he will react. I could write a million scenarios here (OK maybe I'm exaggerating) but I'll just wait and see what exactly happens!
Sorry you're feeling sick sweetie. I hope he answers you soon and ends the waiting, anyway...
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You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
Please keep me posted on what happens/how he responds Jane. To answer your question, no I didn't do it in person the first time. I chickened out, so I told him over the phone. It was still difficult to spit out the words, "I enjoy spending time with you, I'm attracted to you and I want to have an A with you," but when he told me he had been thinking about it as well, I felt validated, that I wasn't imagining things, that there was something there and that he was acknowledging it. Had I not brought it up, I am sure he would've kept quiet. The second time we talked in person about it. I told him I still felt the same way and had he given things any more thought. It was easier to talk then since we had had the first conversation about 6 weeks earlier. The reason I wanted to talk about it again was to see if he had made any decisions since after our first chat, he left me with the impression that he was thinking about things and the logistics of how we would do it and if he could do it. I wanted to give him some time to chew on it. During those 6 weeks the contact between us increased and I felt things were progressing. He didn't pull back after I told him how I felt. He was actually more receptive and attentive. After the second conversation, he left it as "friends for now." Our in person chat that day was followed with an on the phone continuation of the conversation. Again he was asking me how we would pull it off-how would we get together, etc. I had a few suggestions, but I am no expert here as this would be my first A. He ended the conversation telling me that we weren't done with "this" yet. The point of my reply is that even talking about it, on the phone, face to face, on FB, etc. we don't always get the answers or the clarity we want, but I can tell you I felt better getting it all out, regardless of the method. I don't think one way is braver than another-being vulnerable and putting yourself out there and being true to yourself, those things are brave. That's what you did! I hope you get the closure you need. I am still in limbo and there is nothing I can do about it or should I say nothing I want to do about it just yet.I will probably be in the same place you are next month when I just get tired of it all, the waiting, the pursuing, making the effort. Things will probably peeter out when he moves bldgs in 2 weeks.He is on vacation this week and it is a good time for me to pull back and when he returns to see what kind of effort he makes. Sorry for the hijack!
Although my A is new, I am starting to see it pull that way. I dont think I could ever tell him, he may freak, not sure though. Kudos to you for putting your heart on the line, it takes a lot. I hope the response is a positive one!
bird said: That's exactly what it felt like to me the first time I told AP I loved him. I too, was tired of keeping my feelings inside...and that's exactly what I told him. I firmly believe that you must tell the people you love how you feel, because you
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Awww Jane :-(
Hey Janey- dont feel bad sweetheart. I think as women we tend to hover around the 'oh I dont want to say my feelings in case I scare this precious fragile wild animal away'.
Well F%$# that! Sometimes we have to say 'I am WOMAN hear me roar baby!' and if you dont like what I have to say- on your bike buddy- there's one just like you around the corner- but you wont find another ME!
Let him hear you roar Janey. If he runs- he's
Ah, Bird, you get me!
LOL!
It is sure hard.
Wow! I'm just amazed that you jumped in and did this. I'm also amazed that you truly feel like you're in love with him. You're right, if that's how you feel, you should tell him and let him understand the ramifications of everything. I can't help but be really curious as to how he will react. I could write a million scenarios here (OK maybe I'm exaggerating) but I'll just wait and see what exactly happens!
Sorry you're feeling sick sweetie. I hope he answers you soon and ends the waiting, anyway...
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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Although my A is new, I am starting to see it pull that way. I dont think I could ever tell him, he may freak, not sure though. Kudos to you for putting your heart on the line, it takes a lot. I hope the response is a positive one!
Hi janey ;-) Just a couple of thoughts,
bird said: That's exactly what it felt like to me the first time I told AP I loved him. I too, was tired of keeping my feelings inside...and that's exactly what I told him. I firmly believe that you must tell the people you love how you feel, because you
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