both married and im fallin for him

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Registered: 10-07-2008
both married and im fallin for him
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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 10:05pm
ok...well i am married.
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Registered: 08-04-2005
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 10:32pm

Speaking from experience. I would say end this know. You havent been in this that long. FALLING IN LOVE WITH AN AP IS NOT GOOD.

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Registered: 10-07-2008
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 10:35pm
i dont know how to stop.....i love seeing him. The sex is incredible.
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Registered: 02-09-2008
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 11:48pm

You know how to stop if you want to, but it isn't easy. I hate lying alone every night in my bed, thinking of AP constantly. If you think you can go through that, then keep going, but it only gets messier and messier the further you go. If you think it's hard to stop now and you're only thinking you're falling for him, believe me it's almost impossible if your head over heels. My advice, if you want it, think ahead six months, a year, look at what happens if you love him, he doesn't love you back, or you love each other and what happens then.

Pisces




Edited 11/23/2008 8:25 pm ET by pisces2008
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Wed, 10-08-2008 - 5:44am

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Edited 12/1/2008 2:48 am ET by lacey72

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Wed, 10-08-2008 - 11:50am

I would have to agree with pisces. I was a MW about to celebrate anniversary 25 when I met AP...stupid me had to go fall head over heals in love with him (during our first conversation if you can believe). A few weeks into it I knew that I could not deceive my H any longer and made sure that I was caught...we had our Dday and he moved out. In November we will have been separated for one year (he has since left the province). So, I've been with MM for over a year now and it's exactly like pisces says....I too hate lying alone in bed every night (so lonely). I think of AP constantly, he totally consumes me but I have to remember that HE'S NOT MINE, I pray that one day he will be but I nip those thoughts in the bud pretty quick because it's just too painful. Maybe one day he will leave his M, and maybe one day I will just get tired of waiting and ending up alone. Please think about how badly that can feel...day after day. As much as I am still deeply in love with him, I question whether it takes precedence over the overwhelming loneliness I have experienced through this.

benska

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 1:19pm
Vanesaa411 - I too am in an affair and we are just about to hit 4 months on the 18th of October. I feel exactly as you. I am in love with my AP, but I still do love my H.