Cat - Personal attack on me aside, I don't see any posts here that are enabling under your definition "Enabling would be: oh hunny, it's okay. You have to do what you have to do. It's an A. You soooo love each other, you deserve to be happy. Whatever it takes…" Sheath your claws kitty, shredding others with them doesn't belong on a support board.
Yes I'm here and no I don't post much. So most may think my post does not carry much weight. But in all truthfulness it carries just as much weight as everybody elses. They are POVs and not everybody has the same POV. That is what makes us all human though.
Love Ya Girl, don't let responses that hurt knock you down. Let them be your strength.
I am so glad to see that you are getting some strong support from ladies that I am so pleased to call my friends. They have been supporting me for a year now, I believe (wow time flies!) and I totally cherish these women - girls, you know who you are.
You can really only make a decision for the situation that is happening now. Who's to say what the future holds.
I can say, that as a child of divorce and an AFFAIR (yes, one of my parents had an A, they have been happily married for 15+ years to their former AP.....no, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.....so bring on the flames, those of you who may feel so bold), I did fine. They chose to play odds.
Will my AP end up choosing to play the odds? I don't know, that's not my decision to make.
I feel that you have been given a lot of flack for a choice that your AP is making on her own. SHE is choosing to stay in an M in which she is not happy. SHE is choosing to bring a child into this world, into that M. That is HER choice. Bravo to you for taking the flack with class and tact!!!
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Cat - Personal attack on me aside, I don't see any posts here that are enabling under your definition "Enabling would be: oh hunny, it's okay. You have to do what you have to do. It's an A. You soooo love each other, you deserve to be happy. Whatever it takes…" Sheath your claws kitty, shredding others with them doesn't belong on a support board.
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Hi Fkam -
Well now - see we can chat and agree to disagree here.
Yes I'm here and no I don't post much. So most may think my post does not carry much weight. But in all truthfulness it carries just as much weight as everybody elses. They are POVs and not everybody has the same POV. That is what makes us all human though.
Love Ya Girl, don't let responses that hurt knock you down. Let them be your strength.
Girrrrrllllll ... knock ME down?
fkam -
I am so glad to see that you are getting some strong support from ladies that I am so pleased to call my friends. They have been supporting me for a year now, I believe (wow time flies!) and I totally cherish these women - girls, you know who you are.
You can really only make a decision for the situation that is happening now. Who's to say what the future holds.
I can say, that as a child of divorce and an AFFAIR (yes, one of my parents had an A, they have been happily married for 15+ years to their former AP.....no, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.....so bring on the flames, those of you who may feel so bold), I did fine. They chose to play odds.
Will my AP end up choosing to play the odds? I don't know, that's not my decision to make.
I feel that you have been given a lot of flack for a choice that your AP is making on her own. SHE is choosing to stay in an M in which she is not happy. SHE is choosing to bring a child into this world, into that M. That is HER choice. Bravo to you for taking the flack with class and tact!!!
Always remember that we are here for you.
Don't mind me... =)
Edited 11/19/2008 9:41 pm ET by lostintransition
Hey Lost -
Good to see you here.
Two things -
First - to clear something up - Cat is not an OW any longer - hasn't been for quite some time.
My itching fingers are out of control here to add to this thread again.
Hi Tgr - *big wave to you!*
Sorry for deleting my post... but I'm glad that you read it. =)
Thanks for clearing that up with Cat. Then I understand where her anger is coming from because at times, I feel that way too.
Secondly, I want everyone to know that I do agree with them that bringing an innocent child into an unhappy marriage and an affair is NOT right.
so fkam--these here ladies--old school is in da house--wip,lost,blue...and tygr U ROCK...
dude--if u love her so much u best be thinking hard because if u get a D day she will be gone from u 4-ever--since u are never leaving ur kids right?
good luck to u and i hope u both get what u want--peace.
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