Both types?
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| Wed, 03-24-2010 - 10:05am |
I've lurked quite a bit and have read both EAS and MAS boards. My question is - Is is possible to have an AP that is both personalities - i.e. part 'cake eater' AND part 'I really want out of my marriage'?
My AP does exhibit cake eater traits and fits the pattern discussed on these boards, however along with those he does also exhibit the traits of the AP who does leave their S (eventually lol) and his emotional responses and candid conversations reflect that.
At times yeah, he is selfish and is the classic EA/PA - but okay with staying in the marriage (no matter how bad), then other times his 'wall' cracks and you see another side of him that wants out desperately but is afraid to leave becasue of his W and what she will do/has done to him -

can't be both types, that's my opinion, as the WS that left the M. I felt trapped and a lot like a cake eater, so I probably was, for a while, but once I made the decision to get out, I was out and that was that.
Are you still NC?
Magenta! hugs to you this morning!
ah....no...NC was broken last night.
He had texted me yesterday and I didn't respond, but then he called and I answered before I knew it was him and well...you can guess the rest.
So - with all of my confusion I am going over to AAS to post for a while, to air my thoughts and see where it goes.