Breaking off and Him not letting go

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Breaking off and Him not letting go
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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 8:53am
I called my MM thursday morrning and told thim that I didn't to see or talk to him again that the guilt was killing me. He called, he couldn't believe what he was hearing, I want him all to myself, I guess I'm greedy that way. Anyway, he left me a long message about how how he didn't want to hurt me and could we talk, etc. Then I called because I was so miserable I couldn't stand it, he called me and asked me to meet him last night and talk about us. I did. He and his wife had a terrible argument on Thursday night, she thinks he's cheating with a bartender at a local bar etc. So anyway we ended up back together, he said he must have listened to my Break-Up Message 70 times, he almost dropped the phone the first time, he didnt take it well, we're like soulmates he & I..we're so compatible it's scary...Anyway we are back together and we've spoken on the phone 4 times already this morning...go figure...
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 03-29-2003 - 12:09pm
Be sure you are doing what's best for you...the ending of an EMA is never an easy situation..but if you are going to have more bad times than good....you really need to reevaluate the situation...and if you should decide to end the EMA down the road...he needs to respect your decision and leave you be to heal completely...

Good luck to you and i do hope things work out how you want...*hugs*

molly

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-29-2003 - 4:29pm
I second Molly. I'm glad you seem so happy now, but be sure it really is what you want. Enjoy your time together.

And keep us posted!

-lily
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-30-2003 - 2:23am
And I agree with Molly & Lily. If your expectations aren't met, then you may find yourself miserable again.

Hoping the best for you!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-30-2003 - 7:01am
I agree with the other women who have posted but I am going to add one thing. Compartmentalize. Put all your feelings into a box and file them in the right place. How long has this been going on with you and him? I admit sometimes the guilt can get to you but you need to figure out what exactly it is you want out of this Ema and go with it. We are here if you need us........hoooked
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Registered: 03-29-2003
Sun, 03-30-2003 - 9:24am
Thank all of you for your replies, my MM and I are back together again and he's absolutely thrilled, he's what you would call "Mesmerized" with me. He's never cheated on his wife, fell in love me the first time he laid eyes on me (as I with him), his wife "robbed" him of his love although I can't figure that out, (she told him she couldn't have sex with him because it hurt to much, they went to Doctors, everything, she agreed to have sex with him only to get pregnant and he said she cried through the whole thing, I asked him if she gave birth naturally he said yes, WELL GIRLS, I personally think he married a woman who HATES sex. She should have given him up so that he could have been with someone years ago...With me he gets anything he wants and he does the same to me,,,it's like we've known each other all our lives, no uncomfortableness at all and my body is a "One Man Wrecking Crew", stretch marks, surgery marks, everything but he still loves me and for now that's all that counts, I'm not going to feel guilty anymore! Patti.