Business Conference Experience

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Registered: 01-17-2009
Business Conference Experience
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Sat, 01-17-2009 - 3:18pm

On the way to the last event of a multi-day conference, I didn't know what to expect at this party. I mean I was invited but not really with the company who hosted. At one point I wasn't even going to go, but it was better than staying in the hotel room; alone. I find myself getting ready, black tie... and wondered what this evenings events would be like.


Later that night I entered the establishment. It was amazing. Live Jazz, open bar, ordures. I love jazz! So I was already happy I decided to go. I was asked what drink I would prefer, and started to settle in and focus on the band. Music, has always fascinated me so it was easy, and enjoyable for me. Just then this beautiful women comes up to me, and introduces herself. After some initial pleasantries we discover that we actual know each other from business conference calls. She was very excited to place my name with a face, as was I. So beautiful. She flirted with me, moved in close to my face and ear, pretending that was needed to talk over the music. I returned the gestures and we where having a great time, with amazing conversation. I guess you could say we where hitting it off.


I looked down at her hand... "Ah! she married" I thought to myself. Then what was this? What was going on here? Just a really friendly, beautiful women... Am I just imagining that she flirting? Regardless, I had to make a decision. I could really see myself falling for this woman, and I knew from my personal experience this didn't happen often at all; at least in my life. I decide, to not pursue her further... to respect her. I told comforted myself with statements like: "I could love her from a distance", "if it's meant to me, then...", "It's too complicated", etc...


Just then the announcement came. Social hour was over and dinner would be served on the main floor. I asked if I could accompany her, because I truly enjoyed her company. She turned and apologized but the table she was seated at was full. So we parted and I was then again left to figure out where I would settle in. I found an open seat at another table, where I could glance over at her from time to time. Those seated next to me where also pleasant, and I enjoyed our conversation, but it was different. It felt very different. Dinner was delicious and

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Registered: 12-12-2008
Sat, 01-17-2009 - 3:57pm

hello,


I think she just enjoyed a night of flirting with you and the attention

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Registered: 02-23-2008
Sat, 01-17-2009 - 5:30pm

Thanks for the interesting post.

I think she wanted you and when you went to her door she opened it for you.

I think everything you did up to that point was awesome--i think you needed to

walk into the room and close the deal.

Do you plan on contacting her?

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Registered: 01-16-2009
Sun, 01-18-2009 - 6:53am

I'm w/ theetnernal. She gave you that opportunity, but you missed it. If she didn't feel comfortable w/ taking it further she would have never A. Let you come back to her door after you left. That tells me she wanted to see what would happen next, or B. She would have NEVER answered the door in her PJ's. If I had flirted w/ a guy all night, but didn't want to take it further I would have slipped something more appropriate on when talking to someone from work.

She threw you the bone dawg, but you let it go by. I think that she didn't answer your text the next day because she was going home, and knew it was to late to start something that she knew wouldn't be a good idea to continue in her home state. I know you're going to laugh, or send me a nasty post for this, but......

Really, she did you a favor. Dealing w/ all the crap from being in an A SUCKS! She saved you that pain. It may not seem like it now, but you're better off. I know you're thinking Yeah right!

Justice

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Registered: 01-17-2009
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 2:07am
I agree with you! Thank you... Although, I can't get her out of my mind. I think at this point I will keep my distance. If I get another opportunity with her (maybe at next years conference), but for now it's time to let this all go. OMG, it's just so difficult! *sigh*
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Registered: 09-28-2006
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 9:28am

Male,


Hi.


I disagree with the other posters, on a couple of fronts.


First, just because she opened her door doesn't mean she was "opening the door."

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Registered: 11-12-2008
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 10:21am
Aww man! Better luck next year,lol! Keep it tight for a year :-)
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Registered: 01-18-2009
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 4:12pm
I think she was being nice. Possibly a little flirty, but mostly I think she was just being nice. You didn't say she answered the door in a negligee, she answered in her pj's. I don't think that's an invitation. She probably just didn't want to go and get dressed again. I think if she was interested in what you were interested in, she would have done something. I wouldn't take it as having anything to do with you. She probably just loves her husband and doesn't want to cheat on him. Go figure, huh?
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Registered: 12-12-2008
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 4:39pm
I agree with you on that. I think he is reading way too much into it.