Busted and .....

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Busted and .....
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Tue, 03-02-2004 - 2:41pm
....the stupid part is there is no "us" anymore. I posted here a while back about MM and I. We had a short thing going on but I ended it. Well since then we have just been friends only talking every now and then. He still was wanting more but I wouldn't let it go any further.

Well here's the crappy part. Today of all days we talked a few times. After I left the restaraunt where I had the best lunch with one of my girlfriends I beeped him on the nextel. Well he failed to tell me earlier that he and his wife were going to lunch too and she heard what I said. I didn't say anything incriminating but when he beeped me back I could tell he wasn't alone. He asked a work related question and I know my tone changed and he did too and we cut it short.

He called later and said he was busted. There was no way around it. For months she said something was up with him and now she knew what it was. She said my voice changed as soon as he as he said "we" were on our way to lunch. All it's going to take is a little digging and she will see on the cell phone records where we talk alot. More than normal and it will be obvious that it is not all work. He told her we are just friends and that we talk sometimes, but she is just insanely jealous anyways, now she has a reason to be.

What am I going to do ? We are just friends but I know he is in love with me although I do not feel the same way. I wouldn't want to wreck his life for anything. I never should have beeped him. I'm just rambling now. I hope this just blows over with her and she takes his word for it, but I've got a feeling it won't.

I made a co-worker park my car around back and am having the receptionist send all my calls to my voicemail. She knows me and where I work. I told him to say what he needed to say or tell whatever lie he needed to and I would back him up. I mean this is his life and job on the line here. And all of it is really over nothing. We never did anything.

Oh well hopefully she won't call or come here today.

~Blue

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 2:54pm

blue, honey, just calm down.

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 3:04pm
Thanks gurl...you have such a calming effect. Right now is just a tough time for me all around and now this. My M is shaky at best and this is all I need complicating it, if she finds my home #. Hopefully that won't happen. She is just so "crazy jealous" even before today. She told him she would go ballistic on the other person and him if she ever caught him having an affair. But this is different, we aren't having an affair. I just hope she "stews" a while and gets over it. Needless to say he won't be allowed back here anymore for work.

~Blue

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 1:11pm
blue, have you heard anything yet -- from MM or his W?

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 06-15-2003
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 1:34pm
Hey Blue,

let me send you some comfort. don;'t beat yourself up about it, just something that happened, nthing you will be able to do to make it better.

He will have to deal with her and she will have to deal with what she thinks is going on, went on etc.

Give him his space and give it some time for things to calm down, been there done that and you are in so much turmoil right now I understand.

Trust that tomorrow will be a better day, should she confront you I would assure you are just friends, be short and kind to her. Let him handle the rest

Not sure if it woudl be a good idea to stay even close friends, as you said you think or say you know he loves you, but you don;t feel the same.

Would you consider just totally removing yoruself from the picture so he can move on ?

Hugs to you ......
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 1:55pm
I heard from MM this morning. I was so worried because he was supposed to call me back yesterday, but didn't. Well anyways, alot went on. He told her we are just friends but she is not buying it at all. They argued from about 3:00 yesterday until 1:30 this morning off and on. The good thing is she hasn't called me or anything. He told me this morning that last night through all of her ranting and crying all he could think about was how to get me out of this. He wasn't and isn't worried about himself, just me. I feel so bad, but I do think that it is all going to blow over after a while. I think she'll get over it because all she has on him and me is a phone call. She has no proof of anything else. So far that's about it and I hope it stays that way. Thanks so much for your support. I'll keep you all updated should anything else come up.

~Blue

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 3:15pm
that's what i said when my BF wanted to bring the OM and his W into the whole mess.

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Thu, 03-04-2004 - 11:36am
At least the raving lunatic didn't get a hold of your H and tell him all her suspicions. Esp. when your M is rocky to start with. Put some space between y'all and let things blow over.

Luvin