Is this called an affair LOL

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Registered: 06-15-2007
Is this called an affair LOL
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Sun, 10-12-2008 - 6:01pm

I've been through affairs before but I wonder if this is one or not.

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Registered: 10-10-2006
Sun, 10-12-2008 - 8:00pm
I couldn't handle 10-15 minutes at a time.
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Registered: 06-15-2007
Sun, 10-12-2008 - 8:10pm

Not long enough you mean? or to long LOL


After I sent my post I checked the one after mine and it seems a little similar situation.

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Sun, 10-12-2008 - 9:00pm

Laura -


Hi and welcome to the board


It's an affair because you are having a R with someone that you would never tell your H about - that's really all it takes.

lightning in my heart

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Registered: 06-15-2007
Mon, 10-13-2008 - 6:36pm

I want to write you more but I don't have the time right now.


I appreciate your words.


I know he's not leaving his spouse

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Registered: 06-15-2007
Wed, 10-22-2008 - 9:44pm

I needed to read your post again.


It's odd it's like I don't need to have sex with him all the time.

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Thu, 10-23-2008 - 8:14am

Your first message wasn't too clear, but I think you're afraid the H will come home because you get together at your house for those 10 - 15 minutes?

That's the part that would be a deal breaker for me. Everyone is different, but getting together at your house is asking for a d-day, and it would be a horrific d-day with H walking in on you. That's the kind of d-day that can even cause violence.

I think you said that you've decided to stop after 10 times? I hope you have decided to stop the getting together at your house! It's so dangerous, in more ways than one...

It also sounds to me like this guy wants to be friends who have sex - doesn't sound like there's any indication of wanting to be together in another way. He doesn't seem to want to expend any energy into this relationship, as in finding ways to be together or have more time. If that's what you want, and you find a different place to get together, then fine.

I hope it all works out for you! :-)

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Registered: 06-15-2007
Thu, 10-23-2008 - 8:43pm

Bingo very perceptive. On what you wrote.


It also sounds to me like this guy wants to be friends who have sex - doesn't sound like there's any indication of wanting to be together in another way. He doesn't seem to want to expend any energy into this relationship, as in finding ways to be together or have more time. If that's what you want, and you find a different place to get together, then fine.


10 different men I meant sorry about that.


I know it gets kind of hairy.