Calling all men

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Calling all men
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Fri, 12-11-2009 - 4:11pm
Calling all men! Please..I am sure a lot of us would love to have the perspective of a S man with a MW. Please help us out. It will be VERY much appreciated! Thanks.
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Mon, 12-14-2009 - 2:32pm
I was just wondering how men in an A deal with it. I know that some want more and some do not. All of us gals would love to have a perspective from the guys' point of view. If you were S with a MW, did you have feelings for her, and if so, did you tell her. Just basically want to hear mens' stories about their A's. Blunt and honest, that's what we want. Thanks for your time
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Mon, 12-14-2009 - 2:39pm
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Mon, 12-14-2009 - 2:56pm

When I was single and with MW, I was never serious. I was in my teens and twenties. Well, and early thirties. It was all just for fun. But that was always made very very clear.

Now is different. My heart is broken, I'm torn. I love my AP. But it's all wrong and as I said I honestly believe we would not make it in the real world. I'm selfishly (to put it mildly) trying to have a happy home life and an A. I also work with a very attractive MW who is constantly asking for a no strings attached sexual relationship. Yes, I am tempted. I have a beautiful, DW who will happily have sex 7 days a week with me. And we do. I think I am bored with a traditional lifestyle, I didn't get married until I was 35 and I spent my 20s and early 30s living in manhattan with an expense account basically existing as a womanizer. And I feel like I'm still living like that. Self awareness for me leads to self loathing.

I really don't know what to say. My AP is exceptionally attractive, smart, and funny. And for years we had sex 3-5 times a week. Rarely in a bed. I'm a morally weak, selfish heal. But I thrive on the chaos. Until DD.

The tattoo was a desperate attempt to push AP away. But it is very similar to an addiction. I try not to get overly introspective.

"You Cant Lose What You Never Had" ---

Muddy Waters
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Mon, 12-14-2009 - 8:06pm
What you wrote, puts some things into perspective. I understand where you're coming from. I hope you figure things out and get what you want, to be happy. That is a big headache with an A. Hardly ever does it work out to be a real R.
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Tue, 12-15-2009 - 9:30am

You sound so much like my SM. He is always doing little things for me. And foot rubs? omg, the guy is a genius. his hands are wonderful!


But back to the topic. I mainly want to know how SM men deal with being in a relationsip with a MW. The SM is free to come and go but obviously the MW can not because of home responsibilites. My SM says he is happy being available for

~Layla~
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Registered: 12-14-2009
Tue, 12-15-2009 - 12:05pm
wow.....I would love to hear the rest of your story. You sound a lot like my AP, and I really would like to understand how he feels and what he is going through.
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Tue, 12-15-2009 - 1:27pm
So would I. I'd like to get more insight on his feelings of being in the A with you. I have been in mine for almost 3 years.
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Tue, 12-15-2009 - 2:32pm
Hi and welcome to the board! In addition to the replies you've already gotten, you may also try posting this to Guy Talk or Understanding Men, where there are a few more men who hang out and may have some more insight for you.

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Tue, 12-15-2009 - 5:04pm

Lonelyandsad68


I doubt I would really be able to give you as much insight as you think; everyone is so different and at different stages of life with his

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Registered: 11-28-2009
Tue, 12-15-2009 - 10:02pm

hey pause for thought