Calling all men

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Registered: 10-25-2007
Calling all men
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Fri, 12-11-2009 - 4:11pm
Calling all men! Please..I am sure a lot of us would love to have the perspective of a S man with a MW. Please help us out. It will be VERY much appreciated! Thanks.
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Registered: 10-25-2007
Tue, 12-15-2009 - 10:04pm
Thanks, Stephanie
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Registered: 12-10-2009
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 1:40pm
as you wish.....
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 10:21pm
boy this is deep. i feel it for you. its a good thing one of the ladies appealed to you all and i further asked you to speak out. and many of you are speaking out. i am sure we all appreciate it. i would like to hear from a mm with a single woman as well particularly since i was in that position some years ago.(i am ex-single other woman).
k2002
k2002
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 10:28pm
you are truly an honourable man. you and your affair partner really love each other. i wish you both all the best. keep in touch with us and let us know the outcome of things.
k2002
k2002
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 10:40pm
ok i hear you. did someone say that we could go to the board, "Understanding Men?"
k2002
k2002
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Registered: 10-25-2007
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 1:26pm
Yes, but I am not sure about discussing our A's. I read a few posts on there and got some insight but it doesn't seem to be a place where we can ask questions unless we don't mention we're in an A. I may be wrong though.
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Registered: 12-10-2009
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 2:12pm

k2002,

Perhaps we do, I don't know much about anything anymore. Clearly once the dishonesty button is activated, all bets are off. Does the flame still burn? Sure but it's flickering, and once it's out, it's next to impossible to rekindle the light. Perhaps we burned too bright for too long, and in the end frustrated with the inability to have a happy ending, one of us gave up.

Amazed that the other one just raised the flame higher in response to the pulling away, it dawned on her that the love being offered was more pure than anything she'd ever imagined. It's hard to be cruel to someone who won't get angry at you, who turns the other cheek, and continues to be supportive. That's why I continue to state that it will dawn on her, too late in the day unfortunately, what she has lost. Then again, women her age put security and financial freedom first. Love is the ultimate dream, but it cannot stand on its own, nor can it last very long without reciprocation.

What I believe is that love can conquer all, that two people can overcome problems if they stick together, speak openly and honestly about everything, and never take the other person for granted.
It's the ultimate high to be faithful, it's what made it special for me.

As my down to earth friend says, "there's something sweet about your innocence".
It's not innocence, it's a hope, a dream to always see the best in people, and for
my own sanity.

Then again, it's just my opinion.....

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Registered: 11-29-2006
Thu, 12-17-2009 - 3:32pm
Yes, you're definitely welcome to post to Understanding Men, just know that because it's not an affair support forum, it's unlikely many members there will be understanding or supportive of that aspect of your relationship. However, if you do post there and anyone attacks you, please click on "report a violation" to report the post to me so I can remove it per our Terms of Service.

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Sat, 12-19-2009 - 12:50am
"Love is the ultimate dream, but it cannot stand on its own, nor can it last very long without reciprocation." this is a very true statement. my mother once told me that love alone is not enough. Economics have to be in there too. In other words, financial standing.
k2002
k2002
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Registered: 10-25-2007
Sat, 12-19-2009 - 12:40pm
Thanks for this. It makes total sense.