Can the 2nd man tell?

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Registered: 05-06-2004
Can the 2nd man tell?
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Mon, 05-10-2004 - 12:50pm
I posted here last week. Last month, after more than 25 years of faithfulness to my H, I began an A with OM, who comes to my home every weekday after my H leaves for work, and we have two or three hours of mind-blowing sex . He’s so romantic -- every morning, OM arrives at my door with a rose and a piece of chocolate for me. I think that I’m starting to fall for this kid.

Anyway, ironically, the A has actually improved my M. My H might be beginning to suspect that I’m having an A. For the past week or two, he has is suddenly not completely focused on playing golf and watching sports on TV, and now devotes a little attention to me. He’s suddenly rediscovered sex. This weekend, he initiated sex with me three times. Before my A began, he wouldn’t have done that in two weeks. I don’t find IC with my H disagreeable, just boring. I just lie there in the missionary position and moan a few times until he’s finished. He's never satisfied like OM does in 25 years. Anyway, I guess that when a woman gets attention from another man, her self-confidence improves and she becomes more attractive to her H.

I think that my H suspects that I’m having an A, but has no idea with whom. Even though they are a generation apart, H and OM have become fast friends, so I don’t think that H suspects him. On Saturday, they went golfing together.

On Friday, as usual, OM and I made love for a few hours in the morning, then he returned in the afternoon, and we were again intimate. My H came home from work about an hour later, and as soon as he arrived, he tried to initiate sex with me. He’s never done that before. I really panicked. I was afraid that if I had IC with my H, he would be able to tell that I had been with someone else only an hour before. I told H that I was too tired and refused him. I was able put him off that time, but I’m afraid that next time I won’t be so lucky.

If a woman has IC with one man, then has IC with another man an hour or two later, can the 2nd man tell that she’s been sexually active?

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Registered: 04-29-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 7:54am
After reading all of these posts, I think I am now lucky to be in a LDEMA; a few hour plane ride gives me time to calm down and I can always use the excuse that I am tired when I get home. My problem is with my OM. He is always worried that I have just done it with my husband before I came to see him. Does that sound weird?
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Registered: 04-16-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 8:28am
I'm sorry...I still can't get over the every day sex thing.
cl-noregretsyet (co-cl of MAS board)
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Registered: 01-31-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 8:35am
She is pretty lucky, huh?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 8:55am
Hey ducks.....I think women can absolutely tell, which is why I tend to be a little paranoid. MM and I have only been together a handful of times, but each time I say, "Make sure you TAKE A SHOWER before letting your wife near you!" I think women are like cats....they KNOW.

KC

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Registered: 03-04-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 9:11am
LOL... well, on behalf of the every day people (or very nearly every day)... yes, it's very good. I suppose we miss a day here and there, but then there's yesterday when we started and ended the day with the same activity: changing sheets. LOL.


rain

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 9:21am
Never mind everyday - sometimes twice and three times a day. I think she has most of jealous on this board. Holy smokes! I was getting "moist" just reading this thread! Sheesh, well, it has been a week - good thing H is getting home tonight! LOL

Anyway, my thoughts (a I also do want to get too graphic, but the subject matter is a little racey),

There is absolutely no way I would be able to have relations with my H the same day as being with xMM, or the next day for that matter, let alone 1 hour later. Not only would I find it even more disrespectful to H, but I would be a paranoid mess. And maybe this is just me, but even after a shower, I know that I still definitely have evidence of IC, due to the "what goes up, must come down" factor.

Once my H found out about my A - he bluntly asked it we used a condom. We didn't. H told me that he honestly didn't think he would ever be able to be oral with me again. It was psycological for him and he said "I can cum where another man has cum, but I don't think I'll ever be able to head down there again with my mouth"!

Fortunately for me, he has gotten over his phobia, and the first time was extremely uncomfortable, for both of us, only because each of us knew what was going through the other's mind. However, once past the initial tongue play, we are definitely back to normal in that department.

My advice, is be very careful!

And, now I think this is the second post I have replied to since last night, where I now have to go jump in a cold shower. (LOL)


Take care

Red

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Registered: 01-31-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 9:39am
Come on..never mind two or three times a day - but, for two or three hours of mind blowing! Boy - I wish MM and I could have that much time together every day. Okay - I'm jealous!!
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Tue, 05-11-2004 - 10:31am
One time I HAD to initiate sex with H after being with MM. I came home "late" from work and rinsed my (crotchless ;) ) panties and hose out in the sink and buried them in my hamper in my closet. I walked in there after dinner and saw that he had rifled through my clothes I guess to check out what I had worn! I freaked and decided to put on my other pair of crotchless and initiate something (I washed up first). I told him when I showed him the panties that I had on another pair all day but they were somewhat dirty and I had to wash them. He believed it. HE then told me that if I ever had an affair he wouldn't like it but would understand given how he has treated me during our marriage. I kinda felt like a heel but was glad I wasn't caught!

dd

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 6:13pm
Good Afternnon Love,

So your getting Sex everyday plus he brings chocolates and Roses everyday also. Well, I bet the chocolate is starting to pile up as you both are busy with other activities. Let me volunteer my services for all chocolate management...LOL! Ok a little more serious regarding your present sitution and your H. I know this sounds really crazy, but have you considered that your H might have planned some of this and is turned on by your affair. The only reason I say this is because you state his interest has really shot up, shows up an hour after OM leaves and tries to initate sex which he never has done before. He also has become buddies with OM and they went and played golf together. I apologize if any of this is offensive, but like you I also view your H most rescent action and think he knows but in what manner was this knowledge obtained.

Goodlukc,

MoebNme


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Registered: 05-06-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 7:15pm
Moeb,

First, I don’t find your post offensive. I asked for feedback, and I welcome receiving it.

Your hypothesis is interesting. I never considered it. At first blush, it seems highly improbable, although I admit, it’s possible.

Hmmm, I’ll have to think about it…

Love