Can the 2nd man tell?

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Registered: 05-06-2004
Can the 2nd man tell?
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Mon, 05-10-2004 - 12:50pm
I posted here last week. Last month, after more than 25 years of faithfulness to my H, I began an A with OM, who comes to my home every weekday after my H leaves for work, and we have two or three hours of mind-blowing sex . He’s so romantic -- every morning, OM arrives at my door with a rose and a piece of chocolate for me. I think that I’m starting to fall for this kid.

Anyway, ironically, the A has actually improved my M. My H might be beginning to suspect that I’m having an A. For the past week or two, he has is suddenly not completely focused on playing golf and watching sports on TV, and now devotes a little attention to me. He’s suddenly rediscovered sex. This weekend, he initiated sex with me three times. Before my A began, he wouldn’t have done that in two weeks. I don’t find IC with my H disagreeable, just boring. I just lie there in the missionary position and moan a few times until he’s finished. He's never satisfied like OM does in 25 years. Anyway, I guess that when a woman gets attention from another man, her self-confidence improves and she becomes more attractive to her H.

I think that my H suspects that I’m having an A, but has no idea with whom. Even though they are a generation apart, H and OM have become fast friends, so I don’t think that H suspects him. On Saturday, they went golfing together.

On Friday, as usual, OM and I made love for a few hours in the morning, then he returned in the afternoon, and we were again intimate. My H came home from work about an hour later, and as soon as he arrived, he tried to initiate sex with me. He’s never done that before. I really panicked. I was afraid that if I had IC with my H, he would be able to tell that I had been with someone else only an hour before. I told H that I was too tired and refused him. I was able put him off that time, but I’m afraid that next time I won’t be so lucky.

If a woman has IC with one man, then has IC with another man an hour or two later, can the 2nd man tell that she’s been sexually active?

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Registered: 03-04-2004
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 10:33am
OK, I just had to chime in here.

I am the last person to tell anyone "Your Kink is Not OK." You'll have to trust me on that. So I guess it's possible that the H knows what's going on and is turned on by it.

But I just don't think so. His recent increase in interest could be tied to lots of things. As someone else mentioned in another post, Love might be putting out a more self-assured vibe the H finds enticing, or it might be pheremones generated by an increased sex drive or any number of things.

As for his being friends with the OM, it's not unusual that men become friends despite age differences or apparent incongruous lifestyles. In my experience, two particular groups do this: golfers and musicians. I'm sure there are other interest groups that do this as well, but I've seen EXTREMELY different people suddenly become friends because they found out the other golfs or has a guitar. It's surreal at times. And it's easier to explain if there is an age difference because most men like to feel like we're "mentoring" a younger man, sharing our vast life knowledge and generally pumping ourselves up.

I guess this scenarios isn't impossible, but it just sounds very unlikely. I think there's probably a very small percentage of men who find exciting the idea of their lover with another man... and even then, most probably want to watch since we men are so visual.

IMHO

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