Can anyone help

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Registered: 08-11-2003
Can anyone help
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Tue, 11-04-2003 - 5:43pm
I know this might sound crazy but I need to stop my om from getting m.He told me he doesn't love her but he can learn to love her in time,I don't believe that.He also said that just because he gets m doesn't mean this between us has to stop,but I feel it will have to because time to be together will be very hard.I told him he shouldn't get m if he knows he still wants for us to be together.And he just responded that he's not sure if he going to m her.I wish she would just go back home.She lives out of town and I guess she just came back to visit unless they get m before she leaves.I know he has feelings for me but he is afraid to act on them for the obstacles standing in our way.I'm not sure what to make out of this if anything at all but he asked me if he would ask me to leave h for him and m him would I.I told him I'd give it some serious thought.I told him I thought he was just joking and he said you never know what will happen.If his fiance wasn't here I think we could really discuss things better.Am I really bad to try to keep him from getting m?Om is so great but yet confuses the hell out of me.Does this post make any since and if it does can anyone give me any advice at all.I just want to be with om so bad.I feel the same way about him that I felt when I first met my h.Just him looking at me makes me melt, the way he calls me sweetheart or baby.When we accidently touch at work I feel a tingling sensation.I'm m and yet I feel like I could really be falling for om if I haven't already.Is it really possible to love to men at the same time?I love my h but I'm not in love with him anymore.I know people are saying why don't you get d and I have thought about that but don't want to act to soon.I want to make sure I do the best I can to make the right choices for the simple fact that we have 2 kids.
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Wed, 11-05-2003 - 8:55am
I wish you the best of luck. I was telling myself ( and you.. ) follow your heart, get away from your M, and go to the man you love. Fly to vegas and get married.. have a nice life.. then i saw that you have two kids. That changes everything. I believe that love is the most amazing thing in the world. I think that watching bridges of madison county last week, has turned me into a romantic mess, but i believe that you have to do what your heart says. You have children and as long as they know that they are loved and always cared for, they will be okay. Children are adaptable. I don't have kids, but am nearing a masters in child psychology.. so maybe that helps. Kids want to see their parents happy, not necessarily together. They want to feel secure, and wanted, and that is the main priority isn't it. Don't think about´stopping his M. I think that if he expects to fall in love with her someday, he is in a bit of a fantasy world.

If he loves you, and you love him, do some serious talking, and decided, together what to do. Don't wait to see if you will fall back into love with your M, or if he doesn't marry W. He will marry her, and they will have a life, and maybe a family together, unless someone opens their heart first.. good luck