This can be so hard!

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This can be so hard!
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Wed, 03-31-2010 - 11:25am

This is so frustrating!

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 1:12pm
Fortunately for me, I'm not in that stage anymore, but I sure can remember what it was like!

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 1:25pm

In a fog. Thats the perfect wayof describing what we are going through right now. I'd have to agree and say to keep very, very busy and perhaps this week will afford you the opportunity for some "alone" time and you can do some soul searching. My life is so busy with husband, AP, kids & school that I rarely get any alone time. I need to go somewhere peaceful and by myself badly to reflect on the past year.


I'm at a lost and even as I'm here hoping to miraculously stop what I'm doing soon I just received a call from AP & want to be with him all over again. My minds telling me NO but my body is telling me H@LL YES!!!


Wishing you much love & strength on your week to yourself.


 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 02-06-2010
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 2:13pm

i'm sure we're all in fog. i'm sure none of us ever expected to be in situations such as this. how did women do it 30 to 40 years ago w/out an internet village to share on?


sometimes i wish my weakness was alcohol, so i wouldn't have to think about him. and then i remember that i signed up for this marriage so i should really make the best of what i have, and hug what i have (as per dr. laura) but what i have isn't what i thought it would really really be, and people change. that is for sure. and people marry for the wrong reasons (pointing at me).


it is hard. but the other side of the sword is that when it is good, it is sooooo goooood. so we have to take the difficult times with the sweet, sweaty times and know it's a package deal and i guess train ourselves to "just be".


i'm not strong enough to undue my family, and neither is my AP (and i actually respect that) but how i wish it wasn't so hard to live a secret life. i wish i were more sociopathic sometimes (big grin!)


take good care. know that you are not alone. 7 days/one week does seem like a really long time, but at least he let you know where he will be, when he will be available, and -although- you maybe won't be able to see him for 10 days or more.... enjoy the affection you do

when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Registered: 03-08-2010
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 4:23pm

I completely understand your feelings oh_my_my.

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Registered: 08-09-2009
Thu, 04-01-2010 - 7:32am

OMM I can fully understand. I had AP to myself for over 12 months due to him living away from family but as we got closer, he sensed the danger and told his W that she needed to move state with him or he was getting a D as he was lonely. She moved - that was 8 months ago now and i get a phone call maybe once every other week and a few short emails in between. Its so hard but if the R is worth it, you will get through. If its not worth the heartache then things will fizzle out by themselves and you just let it go.

I wish you all the best in the weeks to come and hang in there.

SB.

Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
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Registered: 07-12-2008
Fri, 04-09-2010 - 7:48pm

Oh_my_my, your situation sounds so much like mine.

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Registered: 06-09-2003
Fri, 04-09-2010 - 11:05pm

I feel for you, I truly do.