Can he be trusted??
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| Thu, 10-23-2003 - 8:08pm |
Do you really feel he will ever have 100% of your trust?
I have been in this relationship for about 12 yrs.
His marriage and my marriage are a "staying together for the kids" type deal and we plan to have a normal relationship when the kids are 18 which will be in about 4 more years.
Anyway, to get to the reason for my questions, my relationship with my MM is great (under the circumstances) but I can't help but always wonder...if he lies to her...his wife of 20 yrs....should I really believe he's not lying to me? He always seems so upfront, open and honest with me and has never given me reason to doubt him personally, but this little voice in the back of my head keeps questioning everything!
Can a man betray his wife and be dishonest and unfaithful because he doesn't love her anymore and be totally trustworthy to the woman he does love?
I suppose he could wonder the same thing about me and I know I would never lie or be unfaithful to him. I've waited way to long to find someone that treats me as nice as he does.
Anyway, just wondering if it's normal for me to have some doubt.

jenny
Regarding trust, you need to look at what you know about the man you're involved with. For my own situation, if MM chooses to leave his W and we eventually end up in a real relationship, I know that he would have 100% of my trust. Why??? After all, he's cheating on her and lying to her??? Well, I have known MM for a very long time and we are the best of friends, so I know what essentially broke down his marriage and why he and I ended up beginning this A. I know that if the situation were different at home, he never would have cheated on her. And since the dynamic between he and I is so very different than he and his wife, I feel I could trust him if our R was more than just an A.
Hopefully that doesn't sound too confusing.
Annika
Brightest Blessings, Annika