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| Thu, 10-16-2003 - 4:45am |
So now i am faced with... go the no contact route, break up, or be the other woman. For now i have decided to be the other woman. He doesn't want me out of his life. He likes to do things to help me, buy me things, hang out with me, i like to let him, and the sex is the best i have ever had. i was very hurt he changed his mind (would have been WAY better if he had never said he'd leave in the first place!!!). But i am freshly seperated, not even divorced, and have no desire to date. i just need a place to come and vent becuase, as i try and get over the fact that he *convinced* me to trust him and then "changed his mind" i just keep bringnig up all the thigns he said to me and how he did me wrong. He knows he did me wrong but he's trying to be here for me and be cheerful and keep me cheerful.... i basically have to get over it. i mean...... i had to have known somewhere in my heart/brain that the chances of this workign were slim to none. And he could have handled it alot worse. Trust me, the seperation left me a basket case, but he is here for me day and night. i cry on his shoulder, we got out and have fun, he doesn't hide me, he spends all his free time talking to me. i guess i have guilt that i am doing myself wrong (but this is what i want for now! i don't WANT to date yet!). And i have pain that i have to quit sharing with him or i am going to drive him away. Yet, i tried sooo hard to trust him, and as soon as i did, he "changed his mind", although he has't left me or done anything else bad to me. i think he truly was just confused, said he'd leave, and then realized he hadn't thought it through. But i feel like a huge idiot for believing him and i feel like everyone is laughing and pointing (or will be when they find out) and saying... ha ha look at dumb jen, actually thought he was going to leave.
But i am happy with our arrangement, i love him, i love just being his girl, i love still having all this great sex and companionship yet living alone, i love our relationship, just need some place to come for support, and when the day comes that i have to get out there and date, well i am DEFINITELY going to need advice on THAT!!!!!!
Thanks for listening!!!!!
Jenny

Best of luck to you, chin up girl and keep in touch!
*hugs*
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Jenny
I am a true believer everything happens for a reason...even if we may not know what that reason is. So was it that you needed to get out of your marriage..and this guy helped you do it..
Good luck to you and keep us informed.
Glad you found this board.
jen
Hi Jen and welcome aboard,
You've found the perfect place to vent, laugh and cry whenever you need to... there is always an ear or shoulder to lean on and you won't be judged for your actions.
As long as you are happy and can live with yourself... I say go for it! and enjoy what you do have... I can see though how at times you may get lonely... and yep! this is the perfect place to help you through.
Sweet
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