Can it get any worse!

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Registered: 01-16-2007
Can it get any worse!
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Wed, 11-26-2008 - 3:03am

SO ap is still in a coma and H is off out of state 4 work.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 7:33am
i don't know what to say. i just send you all my thoughts and prayers. god will send good things your way. god bless.
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Registered: 08-31-2008
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 9:54am

Cowgirl,

I feel for you...what an ungrateful pig this girl is.

A few days ago I found out something that left me totally shattered. My best GF whom I thought to be my sister (that's how close we were) told her H everything about my A...I mean everything, even that it was PA. Of course, her H told everything to my H...since we put some ground rules before separation - like being able to see other people - it did not have such a huge impact, but under different circumstance it could've cost me a marriage right on spot.
I can't possibly explain or rationalize why did she do that. Not out of revenge - we've never fought. But I was so hurt, I will never talk to her again, so I'll never find out her reasoning for trusting such intimate and confidential information to someone who had no business knowing.

(((Hugs)))
Vivacious

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Registered: 01-16-2007
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 11:23am

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Registered: 08-02-2000
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 2:00pm
I'm sorry you're going through this. I am a little confused, though, because I thought you were pretty much on your way out of the marriage come the new year. If that's the case, what does it matter if you have someone else you're involved with? Also, what does it matter if he does, too? It sounds like you're both off doing your own thing, so I'm not sure where the problem is. Maybe it would be the perfect opportunity for both you and your H to be honest with each other. It could turn out to be a good thing in the long run if she does spill the beans. You'll just have to see, I guess.
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Registered: 08-02-2000
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 2:03pm
Believe me, I know how you feel. I came to the conclusion quite some time ago that there really aren't a whole lot of people you can truly trust in this world. Why? Because nearly every good friend I've ever had has screwed me over in some way or another, some worse than others. My solution is to just watch what I tell people. I do believe that it is some sort of ingrained thing that people like to gossip and tell secrets. Even guys. I just watch who I tell what, and there are very, very few I would completely trust. Practically no one, to be honest.
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Registered: 01-12-2008
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 2:24pm

Guys, never, never, never tell ANYONE.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2007
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 3:00pm

You are very right--

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Registered: 08-31-2008
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 3:07pm

Emily,

My GF have had an EA at the same time, so it was kind of naturally for us to discuss things like that, plus I was separated at the time..But I would never have dreamt to tell about her A anyone, let alone my H who goes out with her H, to me it was completely insane and totally off limits. I was stunned to find out that she shared details of my A with her H and apparently made a judgment of me too. Well, she got what she deserved...she had Dday and her H is divorcing her.

Cowgirl, you are an awesome person who got hurt over being too kind. Life will teach this poor girl a lesson.

(((Hugs)))

Vivacious

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Registered: 01-16-2007
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 3:30pm

It might also be helpful for everyone to know that both my H and AP have gone out of there way to help this girl-- given her jobs and money oppertunities.

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Registered: 11-18-2008
Wed, 11-26-2008 - 10:37pm

Girl, I just don't get how you could even trust

Carrrrrried...away2

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