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| Mon, 08-16-2010 - 11:15pm |
Hi all,
Would it be ok Lexi to ask evryone to add a summary of their story? I get soooo confused :)
Ok me:
Im a MW, A with MW for nearly 18mths. Fantastically hot and heavy in the first few months with lots of 'I Love You's and 'We were meant to be together'. In Nov and Feb the guilt ot to him and he ended it. But both times we got back together within a few days.
We have now 'agreed' (me reluctantly) to have a lesser version of what we had. No more talk of emotion or futures. I am ok with this as we are both cake-eaters at heart and have no future ahead of us. My head is ok with this as he is an ego-mad workaholic which has driven his current partner and previous wife nuts.
I feel frustrated and stressed by this A now, because I feel like its just not as fun and attentive as it used to be. Having said that he initiates a lot of contact and calls. But the contact is short and friendly, and he is always sooooo busy and important.
I do believe he has feelings for me (he even said it last week which was a shock) but Im torn between ending it and just letting it die off. OPtion 1 would wound his enormous ego and may mean we will never even be friends long term (Im a people pleaser and would feel bad about this option), Option 2 may send me insane while I continually wait for contact and analyse what his text meant etc.
Added to this, my H of 20 yrs (after many years of MC and long talks) has finally 'gotten it'. Over the past few months he has been trying harder in our M than ever before. He is once again the man I married! Now I feel tremendous guilt and I can see that the purpose of this A was to make me see how wonderful my H truly is (faults for sure- but a loving and supportive man).

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Hello Everyone~
I'm S my AP is M. We both have young children, though mine are a few years older than his. He's been M for 18 yrs. What started as I thougt would be a one nighter has turned into an intense 2 years now.
Hello Ladies,
I've been lurking around here for a long time and have posted very little.
AP and I are both M and have kids. He is 15 years older than me. We met a little over a year ago. I never paid any attention to him until 10 months ago when he
always late the to party, dang it!
MM here.. in an A with a MW.. been over two years now.
We met on AM, both in Ms with challenges, hoping something "on the side" would be what the doctor ordered.
I've liked reading these summaries.
Hi Everyone,
I'm a MW in a A with a MM. We met online last year. It went PA in March of this year. I have been in A's before but I must say my AP is really pretty great. (or we are just in a good place right now) We did have a rocky patch in May but he did a turn around and since then I really don't have much to complain about....thus hard for me to post about my misery.lol.
Im in a A for a lot of reasons but of course I have issues with my H and since he is also in the marriage too.. my marriage suffers. I guess that's the old stand by.lol
I did have a interesting last few days so I was going to put that in a separate post. Once I get my thoughts together.
I guess I'll bite.
AP and I met for the first time in April. We started a project together at work. It took about 6 weeks before it turned into something more than just work partners. It got pretty intense for a while and we did cross the physical line, although not by much. When that project was up I was out of town for 6.5 weeks for another work project. While I was gone things really slowed. I posted how I was over it, which was the conclusion I came to. I truly was done with everything. It had all settled down and while there was still sexual innuendo in both of our texts, neither of us thought we could/would go any farther. It was more of just friends. Contact became minimal for the most part because it was more of a chore to go through the everyday texting than it was fun anymore. It was a struggle. I would still get emails from him in the mornings on our usual days but it would take me longer to reply back to the emails.
I got home from my work trip and had an email in my inbox. I text him, let him know I was back, things were hectic and I would text him later. Things my first week back were hit and miss. We text, but not like it had been. Then one day it just completely escalated back into what it had been when we started. I'm not even quite sure how it happened. But something came about with a game on and it started. I had an email in my inbox that night that basically said I was to chicken to do anything. Well, we ended up meeting that night for the first time since I had left. It was a bit awkward at first, and we met again the next night. Wasn't as awkward but we questioned what we were doing. And now, well, things are pretty intense again. I'm not sure where it is going to lead, but for right now we are still meeting at night, not every night, but enough. We have crossed the physical line again, but not by much.
We have another project we start at work in about a 4/5 weeks so we will be spending a bit of time together for that. And that project lasts about 10 weeks. So we shall see what happens. At this point, we've discussed making it a lot more physical than it currently is, but I'm not sure if we will. One thing I know is we have become pretty good friends and I don't think that will ever change. We've discussed stopping and staying friends and while we could do it, at this point I don't think either of us want to.
Just had to chip in with a short hijack to my lovely Aussie friend here ;-)
...this place has not stopped you going nuts! LOL ...we've just stole your chocolate, drank your beer and pinched space on your sofa while going nuts with you! LOL !! ... oh .....and seduced the odd man!! ...that was you! ....most definately you!! lol
I'm pleased to be nuts with such a lovely nutty group too :-)
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