Can you be addicted to the A?
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Can you be addicted to the A?
| Fri, 05-14-2004 - 9:48am |
I am just curious if you can be addicted to an A? I sometimes feel as though I am addicted to it and I am just curious if anyone else feels this way.

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MM and I have always said from the beginning (even when we were only all talk) that we were addicted to this. The feelings, the excitement, etc. We can't get enough of each other.
I totally understand where you are coming from on this one. At least I know I'm not alone. Thanks!! : )
I think PhillyGirl posted something a few weeks ago about the brain's reaction to an A and the release of chemicals that do create a sort of high. As with any high, it becomes addicting.
I fall into the category of believing such a thing happens, but that you can transform that to a real relationship if you have the right common ground. It seems to be working for me and OW.
I will say though that about six years ago before I got M, I was dating my stbW and a woman at work started chasing me. I did give in, and the high was very good. Then I'd avoid her a little, we'd tease each other at work, and every week or two we'd slip off one evening to play... it was *very* addicting, but only if I had some time between sessions. She was never anyone I'd have a relationship with, but there was definitely a buzz to our interaction we both got addicted to.
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Kristin
But my MM, once, did mention it. We were at work, weren't even talking about anything to do with our affair, I was filing something and he was on his computer, and he offered me an Altoid. He is ALWAYS eating those, and he always offers me one, but I generally turn him down. He offered, this one day, and I was like, "What, are you addicted to those things?" So of course he gives me his traditional infuriating response that isn't even an answer, and says "You don't like addictions?" So I said, "I guess it depends on what you're addicted to."
And he didn't even look up from his computer, but I heard him say, "You." I kind of spun my head around and stared at him, and he was kind of looking sideways at me with a little grin on his face. lol, I was probably blushing like you wouldn't believe, but... it's definitely there.
(I was involved with a sex addict once. I slowly found out about all the affairs and the women and even young girls, and I was horrified. It became like a spider web, the extent of his affairs. His therapist diagnosed it, and he was addicted to sex, but he was also incapable of maintaining a relationship with only one person.)
Actually, right now, I need a hit. Sad, but true. I just don't know how to end it...I'm addicted to my OM.
Virgogirl
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