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Can you build trust
| Fri, 08-22-2008 - 7:11pm |
Can you have trust with and AP when you are together, because the whole relationship started out lying and cheating on others.
| Fri, 08-22-2008 - 7:11pm |
Can you have trust with and AP when you are together, because the whole relationship started out lying and cheating on others.
I don't believe that you can rebuild trust when it has been destroyed, but I know a lot of people try, so maybe they figure out a way. For me, I cannot.
But AP has not destroyed your trust. You're basing this on the fact that he cheated on his W, right? So, the question you need to ask is what made him cheat?Only knowing the real answer to that will tell you whether or not you can trust him.
We are all different. Sure, I cheated on H. I never thought I would, and after 9 years I did. Ask me why, and the answer will tell you that I would never do it again, or would I? I would like to think not, unless I was emotionally abandoned like I was by H, and couldn't see a way out. Or, at least, couldnt see a wait out that wouldn't destroy him. Its somewhat of an epiphany when you realize that you're going to destroy the person you thought you loved, if you leave, regardless of the circumstances.
So, the answer is that you cannot build trust if you just don't believe in it. You cannot build trust if you don't know where it all fell apart the last time. And you cannot build trust if you are not completely honest with each other. It seems that, in an R after an A, honesty is so much more important. When it should have been all along.
So, to build trust, you both have to be honest, and you both have to want to believe that the other is being honest. The rest is faith.