can you decide who you love?
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can you decide who you love?
| Thu, 05-07-2009 - 11:08am |
we talk a lot about decisions - good decisions, bad decisions. we hear talk about an A not being "real love" - just a band aid applied in a fog.
but can you decide who to love? do you pick out one person and say "great candidate. think i'll learn to love them." or do you actually fall into love without making a decision? does it just happen?
and yes i know: you can make decisions about your behavior once you experience that emotion so you still have personal responsibility yada yada.
but is the initial emotion out of your control?
Mrs.

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Since one-word answers are the "new black" around here:
do we do polls anymore?
and do you feel this deserves a quantitative versus a qualitative response? even if it means stepping out of the "new black"?
Mrs.
No, because love sneaks up on you. Sometimes we try to fight it, but it still comes back. Real love is not forced...it just comes no matter what. I think we know what situations are good for us and which aren't. Yet it is hard to keep your heart from reacting.
Hi there -
No - I do not think we can DECIDE who we love - I believe that love simply IS - and no amount of wishing it to be or not be changes things.
Mrs.
Hi.
I think we can be attracted to alot of people in our lifetime, but that we make a conscious decision to nuture
There is a difference between attraction and love.
I have to agree with you tgrbabe 100%.
thanks, but i wouldn't count on that.
Mrs.
Wow.
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