can you decide who you love?
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can you decide who you love?
| Thu, 05-07-2009 - 11:08am |
we talk a lot about decisions - good decisions, bad decisions. we hear talk about an A not being "real love" - just a band aid applied in a fog.
but can you decide who to love? do you pick out one person and say "great candidate. think i'll learn to love them." or do you actually fall into love without making a decision? does it just happen?
and yes i know: you can make decisions about your behavior once you experience that emotion so you still have personal responsibility yada yada.
but is the initial emotion out of your control?
Mrs.

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Did I choose to fall in love with him - no. It just happened - from talking to each other, getting to know each other, being there when one of us needs a shoulder, even so much as understanding that no matter how much we want to spend time together - when plans fall apart - it's okay, neither one of us is going anywhere on the other one and we'll work it out.
Your posting is contradictory. You say you did not choose to fall in love, yet all of the things you consciously did as listed above were what brought you and your AP to the love you now know. I think this is what Clarity
It's elemental my dear Watson
as Sherlock Holmes said.....
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