I am sorry this has happened to you. What is your AP doing about it? I have heard stories of couples who have been together for years who have. I feel like my is broken that badly right now too.
no you can't die - you may wish you could but you can't - you can feel pretty lonely and sad which probably feels worse......... I wish I had more to offer.... be well
It's a living death; empty,sad, something is missing, anxious and depressed. It bites. I can only hope it gets better- for all of us dealing with this.
I do think isolation and depression take their toll on both how you care for yourself and how much you want to live. The first is an actual physical problem - not eating or sleeping, feeling stressed all the time. The second is a problem of a desire to thrive, which is more than just physical.
Crazy, i'm sorry you feel this way. it will take time - so treat yourself like a sick person for awhile.
Witchy - you described what I am going through so well.
Edwina - thank you for posting the link. I have felt like my heart just wants to stop beating.
Mrs - as always your advice is good. Again you describe me. I have no desire to eat - in fact I still cannot manage to keep a single mouthful down - it's now 4 days, so I have yet another thing to worry about. Today I am going to try making some very weak chicken broth. My pain just isn't decreasing. The hurt is still agonising.
Hi Pisces... I just wanted to send you a big HUG! I have been where you are a number of times, but only once for 4 days.
Last year, my AP and I had a big dday with his wife and a couple of days later decided to go NC. I was 3 months into a new job and had to travel w/my boss and another colleague. I am so thankful for that distraction because I had to "suck it up" for 'waking hours - breakfast through dinner' and cried myself silly the rest of the hours in a strange hotel room (they probably thought I had a drug problem, I was looking p-r-e-t-t-y rough by the end of the trip - haha). I've had plenty more 1-2 days of dumps in the last year, but that was easily the worst 4 days of my life.
I also struggle with eating when I get like that. Chicken broth is good, so is a protein shake or smoothie.
I'm reaching for some words of comfort, having been there I know the effort means something, but still wish I had some magic words of wisdom that would fix it... Take care of yourself. I'm sending you some good vibes - hope they help!!!
OMG....how can you compare an ACTUAL death with a break up?????? Yes, people die when a spouse dies because of stress and they tend to give up.....a break up can NOT be compared. Its ridiculous to even consider it!
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I am sorry this has happened to you. What is your AP doing about it? I have heard stories of couples who have been together for years who have. I feel like my is broken that badly right now too.
Pisces
It bites. I can only hope it gets better- for all of us dealing with this.
Yes, it seems you CAN die from a broken heart.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A11446-2005Feb9.html
Wow. Thanks for sharing that.
I do think isolation and depression take their toll on both how you care for yourself and how much you want to live. The first is an actual physical problem - not eating or sleeping, feeling stressed all the time. The second is a problem of a desire to thrive, which is more than just physical.
Crazy, i'm sorry you feel this way. it will take time - so treat yourself like a sick person for awhile.
And come here to share and feel better.
Mrs.
Witchy - you described what I am going through so well.
Edwina - thank you for posting the link. I have felt like my heart just wants to stop beating.
Mrs - as always your advice is good. Again you describe me. I have no desire to eat - in fact I still cannot manage to keep a single mouthful down - it's now 4 days, so I have yet another thing to worry about. Today I am going to try making some very weak chicken broth. My pain just isn't decreasing. The hurt is still agonising.
Pisces
Hi Pisces... I just wanted to send you a big HUG! I have been where you are a number of times, but only once for 4 days.
Last year, my AP and I had a big dday with his wife and a couple of days later decided to go NC. I was 3 months into a new job and had to travel w/my boss and another colleague. I am so thankful for that distraction because I had to "suck it up" for 'waking hours - breakfast through dinner' and cried myself silly the rest of the hours in a strange hotel room (they probably thought I had a drug problem, I was looking p-r-e-t-t-y rough by the end of the trip - haha). I've had plenty more 1-2 days of dumps in the last year, but that was easily the worst 4 days of my life.
I also struggle with eating when I get like that. Chicken broth is good, so is a protein shake or smoothie.
I'm reaching for some words of comfort, having been there I know the effort means something, but still wish I had some magic words of wisdom that would fix it... Take care of yourself. I'm sending you some good vibes - hope they help!!!
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