Cancer diagnosis -changes everything
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Cancer diagnosis -changes everything
| Fri, 05-15-2009 - 11:39pm |
Sorry in advance for such a long post.
| Fri, 05-15-2009 - 11:39pm |
Sorry in advance for such a long post.
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I think you have a big mess in your life that only "YOU!" can clean up. But you're being a little girl and keep avoiding getting your hands on the real mess and cleaning it up. Instead you're focusing on this nonsense stuff with an AP who's probably now seeing you for "who" you really are and not believing in your credibility anymore.
Cancer diagnosis or not, you can't keep playing with people's emotions. You are giving two men mixed signals and it's not fair to anyone. Make a decision to be a stand up kind of person and enough with the cheating. Understand you can't have both men if you want a quality R with someone. So, put your big-girl panties on and make a decision to either dissolve your M to be with your AP or let the AP go.
Also, stress causes all kinds of ailments in people. With this cancer scare, now would be a good time for you to "de-clutter" your life and focus on getting yourself to a better place. If that means getting rid of the H and AP, then so be it.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
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My advice is to let him go. He needs to move on and so do you (with your marriage, hopefully).
Truth? Honestly, he sounds like a sucker bet if you chose to put your money on him. By your own words, he's controlling. By my words he's controlling, immature, self-centered and all about him. I mean, for God's sake, when you told him the reason for not being upfront with him, instead of IMMEDIATELY going into concern mode, he's all about the punishing and blaming and guilt tripping. HUH? If he truly loves you, his FIRST AND ONLY concern would be your health and wellbeing. Not his silly little ego and pride. That's NOT love. He obviously cares more about losing you to someone or something else than he does about losing you to a life threatening illness.
As for your husband...well, he's there isn't he? If I were you I'd lose this dead weight known as your AP from your life and focus on what really counts. Not him.
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