Cant believe Im back here again...
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Cant believe Im back here again...
| Fri, 08-21-2009 - 9:18am |
But here I am .... back in the same situation that brought me to this board years ago...
A little history... I left my husband for my long distance OM, we have since been dating , still long distance for 3 years... after a 2 year affair...

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I actually felt so guilty that I had to tell BF1 that I was talking to an old friend and that I had really enjoyed his company etc, thats when I ended thigns with him , or tried to ... I told him that I never realized how much I missed having someone to hang out on the couch with at night or make dinner with , or just talk with face to face ... that the phone just wasnt enough for me anymore. He told me he understood taht this guy is here and he wasnt and he could see how easy it would be to fall into something like that, Thats when he hit me with the marriage stuff... That made me stop dead in my tracks and reconsider.
Even though he tells me its not my fault... I cant help but feel it is in some way ,...he did tell me he needed me to do more, and that he wasnt feeling connected to me because of the distance ...But he really didnt give me a c
Even though he tells me its not my fault... I cant help but feel it is in some way ,...he did tell me he needed me to do more, and that he wasnt feeling connected to me because of the distance ...But he really didnt give me a c
Oh Love Sick,
How I wish you would have posted that here BEFORE you sent it.
I can tell by your email to him that you are trying to spare his feelings. I can also see that you do still want to keep him around as an option. I can't say I blame you. I know you're confused but I think bf#1 is the guy for you.
I know I don't know either one of you but that's the vibe I get. Let us know what happens and how bf#2 responds to your email
Ah, yea....what Tiger said.
You totally gave BF2 everything he needs to hear to hang on.
Just curious....is BF1 married? Divorced? I went back and read your post and didn't see that mentioned.
Oh, and as an aside....give me a blue collar worker anyday over a physician. I'm a nurse and they are NOTORIOUS for being unfaithful.
I know I might get slammed, but I'm just talking from my experience in the field for over 28 years!
I'm generalizing.....I know.
Good luck.
Thank you all for responding ....
SO very much has happened since he read my email... First of all someone asked about BF 1 , he has been divorced long before I met him, about 9 years I think.
Anyhow... I sent the email the other day , and a few minutes later I heard a horn blowing in my driveway... I went out , and it was BF2s WIFE. She was crying and said I dont even know why I am here , I dont know what I am doing etc .... So I invited her in . I told her that I had never encouraged him to leave her , and its true I have told him if he wants a D get one , plain and simple but I could not have any influence over his decision. I advised her ( as she sits on my couch crying) Not to give up if she still thinks there is a chance for reconciliation. And I truly mean that. I am not , nor have I ever been a homewrecker. So as she is spilling her guts out to me , and we are talking ... the phone rings and it is BF2, I answered and he said " may I speak to the most beautiful women in the world?" I said who would that be ? lol me or your wife , who is on my couch? He got angry and said he told her not to bother me , that we were jsut friends etc ...
Even though he tells me its not my fault... I cant help but feel it is in some way ,...he did tell me he needed me to do more, and that he wasnt feeling connected to me because of the distance ...But he really didnt give me a c
Hi Love,
Sometimes I want to say screw it
Last night , I finally talked with BF2 , I had avoided him all day and just went out driving , really nowhere to go. Crying and listening to the radio. I was headed home to tell BF1 about BF2, and if he left me then so be it, but I couldnt take the stress of lying to him anymore.
Even though he tells me its not my fault... I cant help but feel it is in some way ,...he did tell me he needed me to do more, and that he wasnt feeling connected to me because of the distance ...But he really didnt give me a c
Even though he tells me its not my fault... I cant help but feel it is in some way ,...he did tell me he needed me to do more, and that he wasnt feeling connected to me because of the distance ...But he really didnt give me a c
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