There is nothing wrong with a fantasy, and lots of people fantazize about other people than thier spouse. Does not make you horrible even if it is your boss. As long as you do not act on these feelings. I think you have a crush and that is still fine, even though you are married it does not mean you are immune to
My sad story is the same as many other posters on this and the EAS board.
The boss was married too. But he's 15 yrs older, an empty nester with grandchildren. We had a full-blown EA and PA. that was under wraps for 5 months. Then we both had a D-Day. Our A. continued off and on for another year...even after I left that job. During that time, I went NC to work on my marriage. He left his W. 2x but went back home both times before I separated from my H. He kept telling me he wanted us to be together and I was pretty sure he would never go through with it.
Which is exactly why I went NC for a time--to make decisions about my M. independent of him. When he learned I was separating, he rented an apt. but never moved out.
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Try this . . . flip it around.
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There is nothing wrong with a fantasy, and lots of people fantazize about other people than thier spouse. Does not make you horrible even if it is your boss. As long as you do not act on these feelings. I think you have a crush and that is still fine, even though you are married it does not mean you are immune to
When I first saw that there were two responses to my post, I was scared to read them, afraid of what I might read.
lifeofpi,
I could have written your post. This is pretty much what happened to me 6 years ago with the boss.
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Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love. ~Anonymous
&nb
I know exactly what you are experiencing.
My sad story is the same as many other posters on this and the EAS board.
The boss was married too. But he's 15 yrs older, an empty nester with grandchildren. We had a full-blown EA and PA. that was under wraps for 5 months. Then we both had a D-Day. Our A. continued off and on for another year...even after I left that job. During that time, I went NC to work on my marriage. He left his W. 2x but went back home both times before I separated from my H. He kept telling me he wanted us to be together and I was pretty sure he would never go through with it.
Which is exactly why I went NC for a time--to make decisions about my M. independent of him. When he learned I was separating, he rented an apt. but never moved out.
Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love. ~Anonymous
&nb
Pi,
Please allow me the opportunity to offer a somewhat different perspective.
If you have strong feelings for this person, then he is probably a person worth keeping in your life.